Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:17pm

Actually if read what i said,

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:17pm

If we're are debating your experience, er, ok, it does not happen, but in the world outside your experience, it happens. My son, and three of his classmates, applied and received a waiver to attend K with birthdays past the cutoff.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:24pm

Actually, if you read what I said, I simply asked you a question (that you never answered).

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:25pm
I never claimed it was universal.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:30pm

Actually, you were much less than clear. You twisted my experience with kindergarten waivers to fit your experience and it made no sense as a response or debate point, IMO.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:40pm
My kid is in school to learn academic subjects I can not readily teach him at home, not basic life skills like how to balance a checkbook or change a tire. That, in my opinion, is what parents are for.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:41pm

No, not what i have said.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:46pm

yep, mine too.


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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:48pm

Actually i DId answer your question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 12:49pm

If you want to change districts,

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Ducky

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