Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:42am

Wow.


It also looks like the justice department got involved because of possible bias on the part of that police department.


http://www.nydailynews.com/latino/2009/01/12/2009-01-12_justice_department_probes_long_island_ha.html


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:43am
Why are you only using this area, may I ask?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:44am
Sorry, I don't publish where I live :(
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:45am
I did not ask where you live. I asked you to provide a source for your quote.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:45am

coco, i get what you are talkin about.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:46am

How dare you ask her to reveal her source!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:46am
Why have you only chosen this area also, may I ask?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:47am
You did and there is info in that article that would show where I live. Sorry :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:47am

I think so, 4% of workers in the midwest are day laborers....but since we aren't talking specifically about the midwest, it's not really relevant as far as I can tell.


http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/issr/csup/uploaded_files/Natl_DayLabor-On_the_Corner1.pdf


or it could be a confusion with the 3% of day laborers who were born in the US from the other link.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:50am

I don't see any

PumpkinAngel

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