Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:56am
LOL! The thing it is phrased exactly as in the report, only poorly quoted. I suspect the source is one misstating the original source (given that there is a footnote #).
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:56am

I haven't....the links I provided have clearly had facts and data about many areas of the country.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:57am
Did I ever say that? Please provide me with a post #. Thanks :)
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Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:58am
I did what? People would only know where you live if you said it was the place in the article. The article you quoted is quoting the paper I posted, only badly. Since I posted the actual report, you can now get the full information.
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:58am

Nope.

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 11:59am

exactly, the media in this country is overwhelmingly left leaning. it's politically incorrect to report crimes that day laborers commit.


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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:00pm
The thing is that according to the report that coco quoted but didn't quote, it had tallied only about 8000 day laborers in the greater NY area (including LI and Westchester). That has to be a fraction of the total work force in the area, considering that the population is well over 10 million.
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Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:00pm

The 4% comes from a link that I posted, 4% of workers in the midwest are day laborers....at least that's my best guess as to where the number comes from.


http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/issr/csup/uploaded_files/Natl_DayLabor-On_the_Corner1.pdf


But then again, I was also accused of only posting articles from one area of the country...


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:04pm
Learn something new every day - the media reports crimes to the police! If your local paper doesn't know about it, neither will the police.
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Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:07pm
Uhm, yes, unless you were, in fact, quoting the paper I posted. In one of my professional incarnations I have checked the citations of scholars. I think I can check yours.

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