Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:08pm
543, You're welcome.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:09pm

have you checked the police stations where?


in greece? lol

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:10pm

Again, I don't see any support for that statement and I think if you look at your source in the fine print it will say something like the above questions and answers come in most part from the study that I posted for you earlier.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:13pm

Um, I

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:15pm

First, I have not only used this area.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:16pm

Yes, the east only has 23% of their work force as day laborers (according to the study I linked), the west has the largest percentage at 42%.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:17pm

Unless of course the police chooses not to report those crimes as hate crimes or even report them at all....


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:28pm

true, my uncle owned a

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:34pm

Two hallmarks of a racist attitude are that people of a certain race/ethnicity behave worse/improperly/have lesser morals than the rest of society and a belief that your property values will go down if "those people" of that race/ethnicity move into your neighborhood.

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:37pm

<<.....Nevermind-lol!!>>

So you're rescinding your claim that 100% of day laborers in your area are non-Americans? Good, because you have presented no evidence to the contrary.

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