Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:38pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:40pm

There's no excuse for police misconduct!

Did you uncle's company legally hire the his day laborers?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:43pm

i think you got a little excited at the

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:45pm
One possibility could be that he never actually reported the fact that it was a day laborer for fear of prosecution for illegal hiring practice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:48pm
no he said he told them. after a little reprimand about hiring them in the first place, he walked out. but i think he thought long and hard about doing it again!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:56pm
I am talking about someone else who claims not to be racist.

In the frequently relevant (to so many debates on Ivillage) words of Inigio Montoya from The Princess Bride "You keep using that

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:00pm

where did you get those 2 hallmarks from? can you cite

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:03pm

>> Also, plenty of born and bred Americans work off the books, the practice is not limited to illegals. <<

Yes. People get paid in cash all the time.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:04pm

You know, I just can't read many of the posts on this board because they are so far from my own experience.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:09pm
i have a friend who was a macedonian minority in greece.

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