Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:10pm
That is absolutely astonishing!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:25pm
Hmmm...again...no it is not-sorry :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:28pm

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HUH? Where has anybody said anything about illegal immigration not being a problem? We are merely contesting coconut's claim that there is no such thing as an American day laborer.




Edited 5/27/2009 1:37 pm ET by finally.me




iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:28pm

Maybe you can explain it to me, since no one has responded to my comments.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:29pm

Your whole post is a non sequitur in the discussion, but this really confuses me:

Are you implying that Hispanic people share the literature and traditions of Spain?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:30pm
Hmmm...back to the 4% again....lol!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:31pm
Oh, no, these are accurate statements. They just did NOT come from the link provided by everyone else.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:33pm

<<Oh, 4% is QUITE relevant.>>


Brava, Coco.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:35pm

Just wondered why at least 4 people have used this area, starting with Geschictgal, whom I am pretty sure does not come from that area also.

Interesting.....guess it goes back to that "4%" again and no experience, shrug....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:37pm
Hey, how are you doing? Don't remember you ever answering my question what your name means :)

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