Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:39pm

Oh my.......

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:40pm
Besides the state, I would love to know what the poster's name actually means ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:42pm

<<I am talking about someone else who claims not to be racist.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:42pm

before clicking on the link,i expected it to be aobut houston because it comes from our chronicle newspaper source,LOL.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:46pm

Don't even get me started on Greece and vacationing there and elsewhere.


Also, once when I was in Paris, Albanians bombed the Musee d'Orsay on the very day we planned to visit.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:47pm
Thanks :)
I am only speaking IME. I guess it is hard when you have no experience but reading it online when the topic comes up-shrug.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:48pm
Well, now you know.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:49pm
I think the problem is that they have no experience so they really don't know the situation.
4% statistic is NOTHING and that is why you can plainly see that it is seen in a different light than someone who experiences it every single day.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:50pm
lol!!
THAT is why it is hard to debate because there is NO experience with the problem.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:50pm

What experience do you have with illegal immigrant day workers?


You are so caught up on the meaning of someone's name and even seemed a bit miffed that they haven't answered that completely irrelevant question and yet you refuse to answer such a simple question that might change the course of the whole debate.

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