Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:50pm
terrible and to think that discrimination only exists in teh good ol USA>
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:51pm
Hmmm...not really....
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:51pm

sigh.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:52pm
I have stated this already yesterday...sorry, don't know the post # :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:53pm
Unfortunately, racism and discrimination occur everywhere.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:56pm

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Oh, my.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:57pm

should've inserted a sarcasm disclaimer to my post.


but no, i've only ever travelled to florida, lol.


insert sarcasm disclaimer.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:57pm

What horrible timing, I love the Musee d'Orsay.

You know, I spent some time in Paris in the mid 90s, and I'm pretty sure that it was Algerian terrorists who bombed the subway at the Musee d'Orsay. Was there another bombing by Albanians?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:58pm
That actually supports everything Coco has been saying!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:58pm

"No, I don't think I live on the same street as Coco."

Awww...I wish you did. We would have a BALL :)

I have passed the same place week after week, year after year. I also have friends who live in the area and this has been going on for a long time.

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