Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:59pm
i wonder if amilla travels.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:01pm
No one has said that it is not a problem.

58 Pairs of Shoes and No Uterus:


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:04pm
Ummmmm Yay for you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:05pm
Typical....when there is nothing to back up the original debate, make something up!

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:06pm

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You're getting warmer, lol!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:06pm
you've never driven past a day laborer site? horrors! do you live
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:08pm

<<Why are you only using this area, may I ask?>>


Great question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:08pm

:-)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:09pm
Is your debate point that 96% equals "all"?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:11pm
It's ODD that everyone seems to be quoting from one place, right? Again, I guess it goes back to the "no experience" ;)

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