Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:12pm
Doesn't it seem odd?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:12pm

Show me, please, a post where someone has claimed that there is not a problem with illegal immigrants working in the US.


It has only been said that, contrary to Coco's postings, ALL workers of hispanic origin are not illegal.

58 Pairs of Shoes and No Uterus:


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:12pm
No...4% had NOTHING to do with that :)
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:13pm
Algerians are not Albanians.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:17pm
A lot less odd than you quoting from a "secret" source.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:18pm
Do you dare to argue with a mind-reader?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:20pm
But they both start with AL so I guess I can understand the confusion.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:20pm
It's not secret. It's a public source.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:20pm
:)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:21pm

Can you explain why else someone would risk life and limb by gathering on a street corner, getting into the back of the truck/car of some stranger who says (in a language not spoken by the day laborer) he is an employer and then being driven a distance to who-knows-where?


Why?

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