Should I stay or should I go?

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Avatar for rollmops2009
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:21pm

The whole thing is somewhat deranged. Also, why would you bomb Paris, if it is Greece you have a beef with?

As far as the "Macedonian" minority, those who were treated badly were generally the ones who had sided with the Nazis against Greece.

There is also small subset of Albanian speaking Muslims, called Chams, who did the same during the war and were treated rather viciously as a result. Otherwise, however, half of Greece is settled by people who at some point, recently or in the distant past and all points between, originated in that part of the empire(s) that is today called Albania.

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:22pm
And why someone who was LEGAL would do this.
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Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:23pm
LOL- so you say.
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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:23pm
do you have sourcesto cite your 2nd paragraph?
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:24pm
lol!!! Everyone seems to be able to google. Not sure why this is a "secret" then-shrug.
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Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:25pm
What is the 4% abotu then please?
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Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:26pm
Same reason as someone who is here illegally.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:26pm
Becasue they didn't greaduate from high school, and got kicked out of the Us military? And they have no other real options/
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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:27pm
hey! maybe they need that magic poster (the one who has that magic button on her keyboard? to do it for them, lol
Avatar for rollmops2009
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:27pm
Sources for what? That there is a people called the Cham people? That at various points during the Byzantine and Ottoman periods, Albanian-speakers were settled on what is today Greece?

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