Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:29pm
no i said your 2nd paragraph, not any others.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:30pm

Desperation would be one of my guesses.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:31pm
That IS the second paragraph. Kindly specified which piece of info you want cited.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:31pm

With all due respect and since you live in Texas, can I ask what time you leave your home in the morning?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:32pm
The Hispanic men in my neighborhood don't hoot at girls. They suck their teeth and say things in Spanish under their breath and stare like their eyes are going to pop out their heads.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:33pm
no your 2nd paragraph is about the macedonian minority being treated that way because they sided with the nazi's.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:34pm

>> Surely you realize that not everyone in the US that appears to be Hispanic or Spanish are illegal. <<

Or perhaps even Hispanic. People think I am, all the time, but I'm not.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:34pm

What saddens me is, I know they have all witnessed the problem firsthand.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:35pm
lol!! IME they do NOT resort to day-labor jobs.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:35pm

Because they are perhaps unskilled or undereducated and the unemployment rate is approaching the midteens and so they'll do anything they can to provide for their food and shelter? I did know one day laborer who worked to buy drugs as he was unemployable for any other type of work and he was no longer able to collect welfare.

But I'm just guessing, unlike some others who know with absolute certainly.

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