Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:36pm

"Becasue they didn't greaduate from high school, and got kicked out of the Us military? And they have no other real options/"

Do you know someone like this? Are they a day laborer? Do you know many day laborers?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:37pm
if i may ask, what state do you live in?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:39pm
*teascreen*

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:39pm

We could go state by state and show the problem exists everywhere.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:41pm
:)
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:41pm
Here is a simple wiki entry http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ohrana
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:41pm
To add ~ many European countries would love to have a statistic as low as 4%.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:42pm

>> the cop tells him that he will take a report but he doesn't write down that it's a day laborer who does it. <<

If a veterinarian had stuck a knife in his side and mugged him, would you have expected the cop to write down that he was a veterinarian?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:42pm
Hmmm..not sure about ALL of them. 4% ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:43pm
May I ask why you want to know?

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