Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:43pm

Wow.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:43pm
i don't think wiki is a
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:45pm

Even moreso, it's the drama and the carrying on and the pretense that this exists in only 1 city in 1 corner of the world.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:45pm
why would he be picking up a vet though? do vets normally stand on the side of the road lookin
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:45pm
And what about years ago when there were jobs galore? Couldn't be that they are illegal and make more money to stay illegal than to get a job on the books and pay taxes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:46pm
that answers the question. thanks for your time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:46pm

So they can hoot at the white girls?

:-D

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:47pm
just don't cite wikipedia to support details about,miami u.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:48pm
Here is a question for you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:49pm

The point that you seem to be missing is that the occupation of the person who committed the crime reported (mugging) is not relevant to the police report. On the mugging.

Unless you are arguing that it SHOULD be?

"That Marketing Manager just lifted my wallet, officer!"

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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