Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:49pm
Just shows the experience you have with this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:51pm
In my corner of the world, it's on the outskirts of a city.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:53pm
my uncle told the officer that he was picking up a day laborer.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:54pm
What is your experience with day laborers, other than driving by them?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:54pm

Thanks for Googling that for me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:54pm
I've been told that many times on here :0
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:55pm

I am amazed how you approach this issue. It's all the fault of the illegal immigrants who scurrilously avoid legal work to not pay their taxes.

There would not be one illegal immigrant in this country if businesses and consumers actually followed the law. The illegal immigrant is usually the victim of "real" American business owners. Ain't it grand?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:56pm
LOL- cause your stance of "Just trust me, I know even thought I can't tell you why" is so much more relevant.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:56pm
i'll give hre the benefit of the doubt.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 2:58pm
No, they would not resort to the risk of being abused or killed for a job, because they are legal.
If the contractors hired Americans, there would be no need to pick up illegals BUT it is cheaper for them to do so and that is why the jobs are being taken away from the Americans.
Again, lack of experience. It shows.

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