Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:00pm
It is has been a big problem in my area for many years.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:01pm

Then I don't understand what the problem is.

Your uncle admitted to committing a crime. As a result of his crime, a crime was committed against him. The officer left a detail out of his report that would have implicated your uncle and this upsets you.

You want it both ways then?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:02pm
Really, you think so? lol!! Maybe you should ask an illegal WHY they choose to stay illegal. Oh, but at 4% that might be really hard ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:03pm

I haven't seen anyone disagree that it's a problem.


What are you debating on this point?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:06pm

It is impossible to debate iwth you unelss you explain what your positio nis.


"Oh, but at 4% that might be really hard ;) "


We're not babies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:08pm

When my house occasionally gets cleaned, it is done by me and the family. If they clean it there, will they send it back?

I rarely achieve the state of grace, I'm often in the state of denial, and you've guessed wrong about the state of my residence.




Edited 5/27/2009 3:09 pm ET by chestnuthooligan
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:10pm

>> Maybe you should ask an illegal WHY they choose to stay illegal. <<

Not everyone who applies for citizenship or legal residency is approved.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:13pm
It is not arcane knowledge. It is fairly basic. Some sided with the Nazis, some with the commies, some are still living peacefully in Greek Macedonia.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:14pm
lol!! No, I said I am not giving out personal info online. Sorry :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:15pm
:)

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