Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:55pm

Oh, I would LOVE to see you show some proof that illegal immigrants go home and live like Kings.


I know, I know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:57pm
Yes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:57pm
I'm sure you can google it and find stories :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:58pm
Who is taking the jobs away from Americans? The contractors! They are the ones who hold the checkbook and they are the ones who COULD hire Americans but simply refuse to if they can get away with it. I don't know why all this scorn is being heaped on illegal immigrants when they aren't the ones doing the hiring. It's the contractors. My solution: make it much easier for them to become American citizens.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:58pm
I have. I just will NOT provide information on where I live.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 3:59pm
I found the comment that the illegals live better than Americans doing the right thing sort of interesting. Maybe all this venom is envy somehow.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:00pm
Yeah, I could.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:02pm
They "choose" to stay illegal because the only other option is to return to their home country. If the U.S. were willing to have them legally, they'd do it in a heartbeat. But it isn't. One's ability to become a U.S. citizen or get a green card is in large part a function of what country you are immigrating from. People from Latin America have a VERY hard time becoming legal unless they can prove they are white collar. And even then there are more hoops to jump through than you can imagine.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:02pm
Oh well......
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:02pm
No problem.

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