Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:05pm
I know how hard it is. I have experience with someone trying to get citizenship.
Not everyone WANTS to become a citizen though, you do understand this, right?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:06pm

They live better than "Americans"?

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:07pm

You seriously think that they can "live better than the American who is busting their butt"? They can't as long as they stay in the U.S. And they can't if they go back to Latin America either. Why do you think they left in the first place? Do you really want to see Latin Americans stop trying to come here illegally? There's only

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:07pm

You would be surprised :)

Well since I would be posting documentation from my area and they are posting documentation from other areas than their own, yes, of course, they have no problem.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:08pm
"Live like a king"? Wow. Just wow! You have no clue.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:10pm

I tried to respond with a words other than Wow, but it was impossible to craft an honest response within iv TOS. So wow it is, and remains, but I could not let it go unchallenged.

And you're right, the post does tell your whole story.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:10pm
I am sure you can figure out the math :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:13pm

yea, yea yea.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:15pm
well, these day laborers make upwards
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:17pm
Alrighty then.

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Ducky

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