Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:25pm
what's funny?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:26pm

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Never?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:27pm
I'm sorry, didn't hear if you have this experience in your area too?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:27pm

well i didn't document it when i had many types of work done on my house and from

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:28pm
Especially since you are splitting rent with many people and don't drive.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:29pm
lol!! Where did I say they live better than ME?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:29pm

No, they don't, lol!


That's the whole point here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:29pm
i'll repeat again very slowly.....they can.........save up.....their money......to go......through the legal........channels
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:29pm
Upwards of 100$ a day. That sounds pretty lucrative. And yet, few American citizens are willing to do it. The math just isn't working here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:30pm
I'd be hard pressed to come up with $3,000 at the moment, and I make a lot more money than a day laborer.

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