Should I stay or should I go?
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| Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm |
Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.
I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.
We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.
I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.
The problem is:
To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?
Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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It wouldn't matter if I lived on Mars and had never seen another human being in my life. It wouldn't change the fact that on earth in a country called the United States of America, there exist some U.S. citizens who take day labor jobs.
next thing we'll be hearing how we just need to imagine it really really hard and it will happen.
it's expenseive to become a US citizen.
However, you weren't formerly poor and a Mexican citizen. Yes, I do know. The mere fact that you became a citizen easily proves that you weren't. The wheels are greased for some people from some countries. Some of the lucky people from those countries realize how big a part "right place, right time" played in their citizenship. I am related to one of those more cognizant people and friends with several others. All are well aware of the role that history and geography played in their U.S. citizenship. And even so, some of them found it a fairly grueling process. Since I know them IRL, I'll take their words over those of a message board poster.
If that's your answer, I think Coco's explanation has been well-established.
Yes, people with a valid Social Security number and a resume need not stoop to hopping into some stranger's car, being driven who-knows-where, and risking life and limb ~ not to mention the very high risk of not even getting paid.
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