Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:56pm
I'd heard that too. I'd like to see it become cheaper and easier for them to become citizens.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:57pm
You are bad ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:57pm
i think day laborer is becoming a very desirable career for alot of posters here, lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 4:59pm

How does Coco have "no problem understanding their plight"?

According to her posts, Hispanic workers steal jobs from American who is busting their butt, making less money, trying to do the right thing. All illegals apparently pay no taxes, and send money home so that the family can live like kings and queens, while they keep the castle warm for the workers eventual return to a life of luxury.

If that's understanding their plight, I've got to learn a new English language.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:04pm

I don't think I said they

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:04pm
What plight?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:07pm

<<THAT is why it is hard to debate because there is NO experience with the problem. >>


Haven't you stated that you haven't hired anyone illegally or been an illegal worker?

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:07pm
Of course they didn't. That's my whole POINT! People from Mexico are more likely to be turned down if they apply for citizenship than people from many other countries. Although I'm not sure what the comparison is for other Central American countries. It may be almost or just as hard from Honduras etc. There was an early 80's blip where being from Afghanistan gave you an edge. There was a mid/late 80's blip where being from China gave you an edge. It all depends on what;s going on in the country of origin economically and politically.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:09pm

Great question.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:14pm

I posted a link that talked about day laborers across the country and in the midwest 4% of the work force were day labors, the largest percentage is the west ..so I guess anyone in the west

PumpkinAngel

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