Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:21pm

I am also in Texas and I don't.

People looking for day work (no matter what their legal status) don't just randomly pick out corners to stand on. There are certain areas where those looking for work and those looking for workers go to.

In the city of Austin they have a day labor center.
http://www.ci.austin.tx.us/downtown/0798/labor0798.htm

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:29pm

"Surely you realize that not everyone in the US that appears to be Hispanic or Spanish are illegal."

Heck, not even everyone in the U.S. that appears to be Hispanic or Spanish are Hispanic/Spanish. My DD2 and DD3 get mistaken for Hispanic quite often. (When we lived in Turkey they were mistaken for Turks).

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:32pm
Dh is Greek and, with his coloring, he is often mistaken as well.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:32pm

Oh, I'm sorry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:36pm

I live in the Austin suburbs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:38pm

All you have to do is refresh my memory where I posted this was not a common problem and I will happily explain!


I'll be patiently waiting! ;-)


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:41pm
I am in Austin and I am aware that the day labor site exists, but I don't think I have ever driven past it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-1998
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:43pm
Hey Cnut!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:49pm

I've heard good things about Austin. Specifically, I've heard that it is the ONLY! place in Texas that a person from Massachusetts (me) could ever be happy if we moved.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 5:53pm
Yes, in my area there are designated places for the day laborers to congregate to wait for work. Despite there being a large number of day laborers in the area, if your daily meanderings don't take you that direction, you probably won't see them.

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