Should I stay or should I go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2009
Should I stay or should I go?
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Mon, 05-18-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi ladies! it is so nice to be here and vent vent vent vent!!! I would like to share with you guys what is been BOTHERING me for a while now.

I'm 30 my husband is 50 (doesn't look like 50 AT ALL!) we have a 1 year old boy.

We both have good jobs (diferent cities) we've live in different states since we met. I don't like what I do and I would like to change my career and go back again to Graduate School for another major.

I am an engineer and he is an economist, I want to go back to school for a PhD in Psychology, but first I want to stay at home with my baby until he is ready to go to school and then I could go back to school. This sound like a plan since DH is getting a FANTASTIC job . I mean good benefits, good money, very nice city, etc etc etc.

The problem is:

To do so I have to leave my job and I am scared to death!!! what if we don't work out very well? I will be regreting all my life having left a good job. What I would do if we divorce? Start from zero homeless?

Since he is going to be the one making the money how does that is going to work out? He says he will support me always, and he's been trying to convince me to stay at home with our baby but I've been reluctant (reason why we live in diferent cities) to the idea of not having my own money. He is a very generous man, but with a bit of mood swings. We will be living together for the first time since tomorrow,( since he is in academia he is coming to spend the whole summer here at my city ) I guess I will take it from there and see how we work out as a couple.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:29pm

I don't think that's her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:33pm

I believe it is quite clear that Amilla admitted in that point that she never sees day laborers gather on a corner waiting for work. How does that equate with be unaware of day labor problems.


I don't ever recall seeing day laborers gather either, but I am quite aware that it exists and that the problem is more complex that the Hispanic illegals taking jobs away from real Americans, and abcounding with their illegally gotten gains to live as kings in their home country.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:37pm

Sure. Your post # 680 was a clear denial.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:39pm
Did you see the link I posted to that Missouri law?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:42pm
We may be neighbors. I also live in the Austin suburbs. I have shared where I live since I began posting and no sky falling yet.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:43pm
Same here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:44pm

I reported that and hope it gets removed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:44pm

My conclusions were supported by the study ON THE CORNER:
Day Labor in the United States, a study about National Day Labor. The link has been posted several times in this thread (even by Coco, though it contradicted her supposition). http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/issr/csup/uploaded_files/Natl_DayLabor-On_the_Corner1.pdf

Can you point to anything that Coco has posted to supports her position other than her rather inflammatory comments about day laborers?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:53pm

Don't you read the newspapers where you live?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:55pm
You are clearly not familiar with the application process.

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