Should Sally Ride have revealed that she was gay?

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Should Sally Ride have revealed that she was gay?
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 4:34pm

I was sad to learn that Sally Ride had passed away this week, she was such a role model to my generation to know that women really can a "man's job".  I really didn't react to the news that she was lesbian, until I read this opinion piece from CNN: http://www.cnn.com/2012/07/26/opinion/darrah-sally-ride-lesbian/index.html?hpt=op_t1

The piece talks about how some opinions are that she let down the LGBT community by not coming out that she was gay, which the author disagreed with.  She talks about how it was a different world 30 years ago, and it didn't surprise her that she wasn't public about that side of her life.  It makes me wonder if she would have been the first woman in space if it was known that she was gay.  She might not have had the same legacy if she was open about her sexuality.  

Do you think that women today are still hesitant to come out as gay in today's workforce?  Do you think that's it's more acceptable in some industries versus others?  

 

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CFA has done WAY more than just state their feelings. No one is refusing to eat at CFA becasue the CEO stated his feelings.

they are refusing to eat at CFA because the money they spend there is then going to support anti-gay groups; groups that often participate in severe anti-gay activities. CFA also, arguably, practices discrimination against its employees.

I do business with a lot of people and businesses that do not support gay marriage or gay rights. But they aren't using their business profits to hurt the gay community.

It's not about, imo, punishing CFA. It's about choosing where I want my money to end up.

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I'm glad you brought up the discrimination factor, savcal.  I've been wondering if any of their employees who are gay would have the grounds for a lawsuit.  I would think that it causes a hostile working environment for them to know that their employer is so publicly against the LGBT community.   From a business standpoint, do you think they are opening themselves up to risk? 

ETA: had to change my wording to reflect what I really meant to ask.  That's what I get for focusing more on what I'm trying to ask than what I'm typing *smacks head*  This is why I'm not good at debating and leave it to the experts!  

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Wed, 08-01-2012 - 10:43am
What "chosen lifestyle?"
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Wed, 08-01-2012 - 10:46am
Apologies, bad choice of words.

Going back to edit my post.

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Wed, 08-01-2012 - 10:51am
Now that I've changed my post, what do you think about it? I'm really curious to read your views on if they are opening themselves up to liability. IMHO, just seems to be a risky move.

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Wed, 08-01-2012 - 11:38am
I think it wouuld be very hard to prove. And harder to put any monetary value on teh damages. I'd think, instead, that any gay employee that feels the work environment is hostile would just leave. For the most part, jobs in that industry aren't hard to come by. And if the person is at a management or corporate level in which other jobs aren't very plentiful, they probably have known about the anti-gay stuff for a long time, so they've kind of accepted their fate, kwim?

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That's true.  I think it will be very interesting to see how all of this affects their bottom line, and also if they'll meet resistance moving into new markets. 

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I am totally in agreement that CFA has the right to be in business. The mayor that said he wouldn't grant them a business license was out of line.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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If this was about the morals and values of the company in general or the CEO in particular, it wouldn't be an issue. Which is why it hasn't been an issue for the past 15 years.

You obviously don't "get" what this is about.

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Yeah? So he's religious and has been forever and has instilled those values in his company. That's not what this is all about. If that's what you think it is about then yoiu are either very uninformed or badly misinformed.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1