Should Sally Ride have revealed that she was gay?

Avatar for Cmmelissa
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Should Sally Ride have revealed that she was gay?
44
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 4:34pm

I was sad to learn that Sally Ride had passed away this week, she was such a role model to my generation to know that women really can a "man's job".  I really didn't react to the news that she was lesbian, until I read this opinion piece from CNN: http://www.cnn.com/2012/07/26/opinion/darrah-sally-ride-lesbian/index.html?hpt=op_t1

The piece talks about how some opinions are that she let down the LGBT community by not coming out that she was gay, which the author disagreed with.  She talks about how it was a different world 30 years ago, and it didn't surprise her that she wasn't public about that side of her life.  It makes me wonder if she would have been the first woman in space if it was known that she was gay.  She might not have had the same legacy if she was open about her sexuality.  

Do you think that women today are still hesitant to come out as gay in today's workforce?  Do you think that's it's more acceptable in some industries versus others?  

 

Pages

Avatar for savcal2011
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2010
I wouldn't say that I think she SHOULD have. It's her decision. and hers alone.

That said, I'm always saddened that anyone - be they gay, Christian, buddhist, bisexual, have a foot fetish, love LIfetime Movies, eat mayo from the jar or whathaveyou - has to hide their true selves. I think there is a difference between being a private person or choosing not to release every detail of one's life and hiding one's true self. And I think that Sally was probably doing a bit of both.

I also think that revealing her sexual orientation then would have been much more detrimental than if a young astronaut did it today.

It is definitely more accepted in some industries than others.

And, finally, while I don't think anyone needs to talk about their "sex life" in public ... sexual orientation is about much much more than one's sex life. Who a person loves is integrated into EVERY aspect of a person's life. I talk about my husband in 1000s of ways that have NOTHING to do with our sex life. A gay person should feel free to do the same. A lesbian should be able to say "My wife and I went to see Dark Night Rises last night and it was fantastic." A gay man should be able to say "OMG, you should see the present my husband gave me for our anniversary. I sure do love that man."

And, FTR, I will not be spending any more money at Chick Fil A

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Re: Should Sally Ride have revealed that she was gay?
Fri, 07-27-2012 - 7:19pm

How does that work? My friends and acquaintances know I'm married with children. I assume that people are pretty clear there was some "sleeping with" my partner going on. I assume that my lesbian and gays friends with partners have an intimate relationship with their partners. It is not "prying" or "judging" to acknowledge and respect that relationship.

Sally Ride did not hide her relationship with her partner; but she did not share it as part of her public persona. Her choice, but it would not be wrong if she had decided to come publicly earlier either. I think an obituary should not just acknowledge the deceased, but the grieving and her partner was chief among the grieving.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Re: Should Sally Ride have revealed that she was gay?
Fri, 07-27-2012 - 6:58pm
Really? I knew John Glenn was married to his childhood sweetheart, Annie Glenn. I read and watched "The Right Stuff" and Annie and John were a major plot line.

Armstrong is a much more private man, but its easy to find out that he was married twice and he had 3 children.

Pages