Sleep and work status

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Sleep and work status
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Sat, 04-12-2003 - 11:52pm
Do you think your work status effects how your children sleep?

My best friend returned to work a month ago after having her adorable baby girl. She has to wake the baby at about 6 a.m. to get her ready for daycare. She gets home by 5, dh by 6 and they have family time until bedtime.

The problem is baby (who is 3 months old) now goes to sleep at 11 p.m. This is not allowing enough sleep for my friend. I think the baby makes up for the sleep at daycare by taking lots of naps. She slept for 6 hours one day (not in a row).

I sah with my own kids and they seem to fall into a schedule of sleeping 12 hours a night (from 8 to 8) and taking shorter naps (not more than 3 hours a day). My often complaint when my babes are newborns is they don't nap enough.

Obviously my friend would not want her dd to sleep 12 hours a night as that wouldn't give them any time with her. Even moreso, it seems baby wants time with mom and dad and stays up late.

Do you think work status effects a baby's sleep schedule? Would a baby in dc nap better, but sleep less at night. A sah kid sleep at night and not during the day?

Jill

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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 7:31am
I think that sleep would only be effected if because of work the child had to be woken up before its internal clock said that it should or keep up later at night.

My three DDs were all SAHM babies and at least one had a period of tm where she had her days and nights mixed up, that is a fairly normal thing and not just a WOHM thing.

A child being able to completely sleep and wake on their own time clock is really a luxery that even a child of a SAHM has only if they are first born or if the older child are still quite young. My older girls were 6 and 4 when DD3 was born so from the time was 2 months old she was being woken up to take her sister to school.

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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 7:48am
Not really. My kids are short sleepers regardless of whether or not it's a work week or we're on vacation. They like to stay up late. I have a friend whose kids sleep 12 hours a night, like yours, but they did that when she was a WM and still do it now that she's a SAHM (the fact her kids slept so much is why she decided to SAH. She, literally, was only seeing her kids 2 hours a night because they slept so much when she was a WM). I think it has to do with the kids moreso than working status. I have to admit, that as a WM, I was more than willing to let my little ones stay up later. I, probably, would have insisted they go to bed earlier, which would have simply meant they'd nap less, if I had SAH because I would have had it my 8:00 PM.
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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 12:34pm
Well, unless your friend SAHs with her baby for a couple of months, she'll never know if her working affects the baby's sleep schedule. She has no control to compare it to. Her baby might nap for 6 hours a day and not go to bed until 11pm even if your friend SAH. I WAH with dd. She didn't go to sleep each night until about 11pm. Some babies are just like that.

So your friend doesn't get enough sleep? Tell her welcome to motherhood. I SAH with ds for over a year and I never had more than 7 hours of sleep in a night. On average it was about 5-6; and that wasn't 6 straight hours. It was an hour here; then two hours; then an hour and a half; then a half hour; then an hour. That's motherhood; not working status.

And now? My working status has not a bit of effect on my kids sleep time. Wait; I take that back. Ds naps 1.5-2 hours a day in dc. When he's at home he won't nap. So he gets BETTER sleep because of my work status. Dd isn't affected. Both kids get up and go to bed at the same time whether I work or not.

Hollie

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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 9:07pm
I made a conscious decision that the boys would go to bed early at night regardless of how little or much they saw me or their dad during the week. It's one of the sacrifices we make as parents.

But on the weekends, my 3.5 year old doesn't nap. Occasionally, he will nap during the weekday. I do think that's due in part to wanting to spend time with us.

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 1:11am
I think that 3 months is too early to say that the baby is keeping herself awake to be w/mom & dad! I think that the mom hasn't been working long enough to say how her working is going to effect the baby's sleep pattern.

I'm a sahm & my first got into a period when she stayed up until 11 pm (& this was about the 3 months range), but after a few months it straightened out & she got into an earlier sleep pattern & slept about 11-12 hours per night.

Vickie

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 11:24am
That's what I was thinking! You don't get enough sleep woman? Well it's called **you have a baby!!** hehehe... I don't think I slept more than 2 hrs at a stretch till ds was 1.
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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 11:46am
When, I returned to work, my DS was 4 months old. At first, he went to sleep at 10 pm and woke up at 5:30 am during the week. After a while, it seemed he was overtired. So now, he goes to sleep usually between 8:30-9 pm. As much as I would like to see him more, he needs his sleep.
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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 11:47am
Hey, my baby goes to bed between 7 and 7:30 pm. It stinks! You have my empathy.

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 11:54am
Yes, it can...absolutely!

I know working parents who make it a point to spend less time w/ their babies just to make sure they get to sleep on time. But as a working parent, I know the temptation exists (for both baby and parent) to have them stay up later. One of my friend's toddlers started developing severe headaches because he would not fall asleep until after 10 pm and have to be up by 6 am. Now she puts him to sleep at 7 pm on the dot and his headaches have disappeared.

I am very lucky to have a nanny who comes to my house so if my DD needs to she can sleep in every morning...and she's a great napper (3 hours a day) I know that when we used to take her to my MIL's she would fall asleep in the car which is not great quality sleep.

So yes, working can affect a child's natural sleep cycle and I think working parents should be aware of that and try to avoid keeping the kids up late if they have to be woken early for daycare.

Ana
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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 1:23pm
I agree with the idea that wohp of young children may have to sacrifice time with their kids so they get sufficient sleep. Although I wonder if that isn't such an issue if the baby naps for 6 hours a day at daycare.

My dh only sees the kids for 1-2 hours before they have to go to bed. I think this is enough time for him because he is entirely focused on them, which can be pretty exhausting after a full day of work. But I think my older child has a problem with it. He gets up at night crying for Daddy, Mommy won't do. He told me once he thinks his dad goes to work after he goes to sleep. (Dh does, in fact, leave for work before he wakes most days).

The baby doesn't seem to mind, yet.

Jill

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