Sneaking purchases...

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Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:04pm
ME TOO!!! Today I bought ORANGE shoes to match a skirt I was buying. They matched the orange in the skirt perfectly. Of course while I was there I wanted to get a purse to match the shoes but had no luck. There were cute orange bags but not the right shade of orange. So I had to settle for a white purse.

Do you have a Nordstrom's outlet near you? I get great deals on bags at the Nordstrom's outlet. I love bags and I agree they don't need to be fancy expensive ones to be fun.

Dh makes fun of me when we go out and I have to change my bag to match my outfit. He keeps a wallet until I decide he needs a new one and can't understand why women need so many bags.

Jenna

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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:08pm
Jumping in late here, so if this has been covered, I apologize. But how do you know that the parents with that $10,000 swing set aren't playing with their kids on it? You appear to have made a value judgment that having "stuff" is automatically less virtuous than doing without, and you seem to assume that parents who can and do provide their children with a lot of "stuff" must be doing it to compensate for something else that they're not giving them. While that is no doubt true in certain cases, I think you're painting with much too broad a brush.
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:11pm
I think that you would agree that the Scripture also says that it's not the amount of time or talent or money given....as much as the "spirit" in which it is given. God cares most about what is written on our hearts.
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:12pm
I tend to get pretty tired of the general attitude of "If I can do it, so can everybody else." Not everybody can or wants to live the way you do. They want to live *differently.* I get pretty tired of the general attitude of "My way is the best way for all" or "SAHP is best for my family and I think having a SAHP is best, therefore everyone should have a SAHP."
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:14pm
ITA!!!

Mondo

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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:15pm
Ooooh, just wait until they're in "men's" sizes. My DS2, who is 9 is now in a size 6.5 man's shoe. We went to buy him new sneakers at the local shoe store for the beginning of school in the fall. I think I paid over $60 for them, and they were the cheapest ones! YIKES! DS1's shoes, who wears a 4.5 or 5 were half that price (for Nike's).
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:22pm
Did you ever pay for child care during the day while you were at work? Are you saying my job has less value than yours?
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:24pm
I think we are already there with ds1....just turned 8 and is in second grade wears a size 5 1/2 mens shoe.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:26pm
Look, I'm not saying that the terminology "full-time parent" is the best to use. I was trying to explain how people come to use that term...it's not met as a put down to anyone else.....it's simply a way for someone like me to explain my "job" during the day while other people are doing other jobs. I have no problem with being called a "full-time child care provider and full-time mom" if you have no problem being called "full-time (insert job) and full-time mom."
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 2:27pm

Are you saying you have more value as a parent than those

PumpkinAngel

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