Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:12pm
Hey I just posted about ds1...aka monster child or sometimes bigfoot.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:13pm

One of my worries in life is that she'll have HUGE feet....LOL! I'm just hoping her feet slow down and wait for the rest of her body to catch up...although she's a pretty big girl all around!!!


Funny thing is I wear a 6 1/2 so I'm thinking she'll slow down at some point ;)

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:19pm

Does that apply to all summer weight clothing, as well as white clothes?


I loved your earlier phrase "ancient clothing affectations"... do you mean there are no longer any rules for appropriate dress re: fabric, color, time of the year?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:22pm
What's not to be happy about?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:25pm
And if you'll read carefully, a SAHM by the board's definition is someone with no paid employment.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:30pm

Evil and judgmental....well you got one of those right.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:34pm

"And while I'm sure you are a fine parent, it is true that you do not devote as many hours a day to it as I do."


You are right on both counts.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:36pm

You know something I have noticed about you when you post....you seem to be ashamed, for lack of better word, about working a few shifts a month to help out the family finances.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:37pm
>>>ROFLMAOPMP. You obviously *haven't* been around much. Or are only choose to read the posts that support your stance.<<<<

Well, I HAVE been around awhile. And quite truthfully, she's right. There AREN"T alot of positive things said by WOHMs about SAHMs (and vice versa). It seems the WOHMs spend most of their time trying to get someone to affirm their choices for them.

I find that most SAHMs (IRL, too) feel so comfortable that they are doing the right thing that there really is just little need to continue to try to provide examples of all the good that comes from SAH. On the other hand, alot of WOHMs will list and list all kinds of reasons why there kids are okay in spite of their working (or b/c of it), and how they "can't imagine" living on a budget (or at least a tight one),

somehow trying to "prove" that their work status isn't harming their kids. I'm not saying it is (some jobs require very little time away from children, some jobs require NO time away from awake children, some jobs require gobs of time away from the very heart of a child's day), I'm just saying that it seems like *SOME* WOHMs are trying to prove something, or justify something. I know many of you here say you are quite confident with your choices, but what you are trying to write and what you actually convey with your words are sometimes 2 very different things.

Fire away, ladies, but be advised....I can only respond one at a time!!! And I won't be responding during the daytime hours!!! And seriously, this is obviously ONLY my personal observation, MY opinion, which I'm entitled to...it just seems to be that way (maybe moreso IRL than on THIS board) :)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:43pm
Now now don't worry....she can marry my ds1 aka Bigfoot.

PumpkinAngel

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