Sneaking purchases...
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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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If you are so secure as a SAHM, why rush to confirm that you work only 10 hours a month, not 10 hours a week?
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And as far as "tarnishing" my image, I guess if you are implying that I am prouder of my skills and ability as a mom than I am of my skills as a nurse, you betcha. My "image" of a SAHM isn't an image. It is what it is. I am a SAHM. When you are at work, and you children are at dc, I am AT HOME. And for the few hours a month that I work, my dh is AT home. I think an at-home parent is the important thing, not which parent it is.
"I don't know anyone (in my real life) who wouldn't be a bit sad to hear that toddlers or preschoolers spend their days with a nanny when the mother actually has a choice. I just can't think of one person who would think that's a good thing for kids."
You don't know any choose to WOH moms who have nannies or who use othercare in general?
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Well I guess I will take a shot so to speak.
I guess true you have been around awhile, you seem to post and then fade again when the debate gets a bit too much...I don't' see you finishing a lot of conversations but posting your opinion such as you did and then walking/running away without finishing the conversation.
PumpkinAngel
Hi,
As for trying to prove a point, if I were to post on this board, that is was of *my opinion* (and there are several MALE
Mondo
I think thus do protest too much....
I don't' know anyone on this board who's work dominates their life to much....did you have someone in mind or are you speaking about real life?
<<Its just that for my dh and I, we are confident that we can and are providing those things for our own kids better than anyone else could on a FT basis, so we are so glad that we can continue to do that. >>
My dh and I are quite confident that we provide for our kids...but better than anyone else?
PumpkinAngel
Seriously, what makes you think that my kids don't go to birthday paries? (Although most are family! Mine aren't in school yet), and we've taken a great vacation every year since kids came. Now my definition of great and yours may not be equal, but they have been great to us. And $$$ goes into the 401K every paycheck...Budgeted living does not=pauper.
>>>>I am very comfortable with my choices and my lifestyle....there is very little I regret. Honestly, what you said about being comfortable with your decision and what you convey...I can say the same, especially about you. You get very upset if someone dare suggests that you are a partime wohm and not a full time sahm. Maybe if you would finish a conversation and let us get to know you.... <<<<<
I too am very comfortable with my life choices. I personally think it bothers some of you (jealousy, maybe??) that I am able to enjoy being a FT SAHM b/c of my chosen field. I know many of you want me to "convert" to posting as a PTWOHM, but for my purposes here and my views, and my status at home as it pertains to my children and the waking hours of their day, I am a FTSAHM. It just is as it is. I can't help it that I don't have to work 40, or even 10 hours a week.
And could you please show me a thread that I haven't "finished", as you put it? Just b/c I don't concede to the belief that working is better, doesn't mean I don't finish what I have to say. These things, when they get heated (as they tend to toward the end) are really nothing more than personal jabs at that point and, yes, I choose not to respond to alot of them. Also, I tend to "post alot" during periods of work for me, and then I don't work for weeks on end, so I don't usually post from home. Sometimes I do, but most of the time, I am posting from work. (Not tonight, though.)
I would love for you all to "get to know me". But I am here to debate my views, and above all else, that is what I come to do. I haven't really had anyone ask me anything about me personally in a way that wasn't "sniffing for dirt", so I guess I didn't see this board as a get-to-know-your-cyberneighbor kind of place. But ask me anything. I'll answer truthfully and honestly! :)
>>Well I guess you are not here and know the board as much as you think you do...because my kids don't go to daycare...they are at school. I work basically the hours that they go to school<<<
My mistake in making that *you* appear as if I really meant YOU personally. I was referring to the general *you*, and should have put that in there. I didn't think you would take it as a literal *you*. And good for you for finding a job that coincides with your children's days at school. I hope to do the same when I need to. Although I will not take a job that requires my children to be latchkey, or have to be in an afterschool classroom for hours after their classmates have gone home to their families. I think 8 hours of classroom is quite enough for a little one! Not saying you do this, as I remember, you have g-parents caring for them for a couple hours (or am I mixing people up...?)
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PumpkinAngel
We aren't speaking of fulltime as Sammy are we?
PumpkinAngel
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