Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:51am

<<you have to be somewhat of a conformist >>


Which is one of the many reasons I'm not a lawyer. I REFUSE to be conformist when there is no functional basis for the conformity.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:52am
My condo community, a mere 15 miles from downtown Baltimore and a mere 35 minute drive to the White House in DC, is bordered on one side by a working farm. Up until 3 years ago, that working farm was bordered on the other side by the Univerisity of Maryland Horse Farm campus (they sold--at a huge profit--so they could buy 3 times the land in Fredrick County), but there are other working farms in Howard County which is absolutely considered part of the Baltimore/DC metropolitan area. Two of the other farms are physically located inside Columbia, the largest town in HoCo and several others are physically located within the confines of Ellicott City, the county seat.

the situation is similar in Anne Arundel, Montgomery and Prince George's counties, all of which are part of the Baltimore/DC Metro area.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:53am

Bullchit. I wore a white sweater with a khaki skirt recently to a meeting that was filled with *gasp* lawyer, bankers and accountants. Heck, I wore the same sweater to a meeting where I met with politicians. And the same sweater to a meeting the one of our state's highest paid lobbyists.


They must not have gotten the memo cause I wasn't shunned. I was welcomed ... even hugged by a few.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:53am
Another rebel, eh?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:54am

<<If your mother or other female role model wasn't too clued in>>


Clueless because she didn't care about some stupid rule? Bwahahahah

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:17am
Well the other posters pretty much covered everything already (thanks pnj!) so I can just agree with everything they say.

My kids ARE with me every day. I work 2 NIGHTS a week-yep, they are sleeping for most of the time I am gone. Not to mention they are with their FATHER. Yes, I work set days, but I also work for some great people who have no problem with me taking time off whenever I might need or want to-my *waiting for approval* consists of about 5 minutes of checking with my boss on her schedule (since she does my job when I am not there) and writing it down.

What is this about being *disqualified*?? Is this some kind of competition for you? Again, why do you seem so embarassed to call yourself what you ARE-a pt wohm??????


dj

Dj

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:22am
I've only ever abided by it as far as shoes. Wouldnt wear white or light cream shoes in winter (but then I seldom wear them in summer either). Well and I guess white pants too, but I dont wear white pants as a rule anyway, LOL!!

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:22am
Maybe it's a regional thing. Here in So CA, color doesn't mean much. White linen pants in the winter don't turn heads and even open toed shoes in January doesn't if it's warm enough out.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:25am
But even for jobs where people don't dress "up" during their normal work days, it's better to dress more conservatively for an *interview.* (unless you're in an artsy kind of field, I suppose). Imagine how unprofessional you would have appeared at your interview if you had shown up in a shirt and shorts! lol!
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:30am

And see ... I don't see the point of swimming with the tide when there is no positive benefit of doing so. What would I gain by not wearing white? Or by carrying a $500 purse? Or by wearing short sleeves only from June to August?


If anything, I would *lose* something by doing so .. that something being money and comfort.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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