Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:37am
Na...I don't want to lure you to *my side* of this debate, you would have to have a bit more of an open mind to join my team so to speak.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:40am
Sleeping beauty. I missed Giselle, can't remember why--some kid conflict, no doubt.

I get to go to a lot of arts events because my mom has season tickets to absolutly everything--symphony, opera, ballet, theater, modern dance. My siblings and I take turns going with her, or going together without her because she & my dad travel so much. My sister writes the dance column in Catalyst, (the free new-agey monthly magazine.)

Do you wear a nametag when you staff the booth? I'll look for you next time.

Do you take your kids to the Lollipop series at the symphony? We'll be at the next one. At least DD & I will be--DS doesn't sit still very well at those events, so I'm thinking of leaving him home and allowing DD to invite a friend. I thought the last one was really well done.

And, from another thread. Would you recommend LegoLand for kids 6 and 9? My son saw a brochure and he's just dying to go.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:44am
For interviews, it matters to me that the candidate show up wearing "interview clothes" b/c that tells me that getting the job is important to them. We're a sneaker/tshirt shop, too, but I don't dress that way when I do interviews (or when I meet clients.) My feeling is that if I expect them to make the effort to impress me with their professionalism, it is respectful of me to dress carefully for interviews, too.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:45am
I'm an engineer and I've mostly worked part time. My husband has also found part time free lance work as a software architect. They do exist, but they tend not to be posted in the want ads and are not the most profitable. Retiremnet and benefits are non exsistant, but I do get PTO.

The point about making 1/5th the salary for 1/5th the effort is just false. I agree with H&I that it would be a waste of time at the very least, assuming you could find someone to go for that. Highly unlikely. Part time in the engineering world pretty much means carrying about 75%+ of the workload, squeezed into a few days for less than half the compensation. I will also point out that I am still pretty entry level. If I were in management, it would be highly unlikely that I could find part time work.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:50am

"I don't see the point of swimming with the tide when there is no positive benefit of doing so."


Have you ever heard the expression that you should dress like your boss (or for your next promotion)?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:51am
Are you sure you wouldn't be promoted faster if you changed your appearance in certain ways?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:52am
What color shoes do you wear in the summer?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:00am

Yep. My performance evaluation isn't based on appearance. its based on how well i get the work done, how much $ I bring in and how I interact with our members. Besides, there's no "promotions" to be had in this job

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:04am

Hmm, I should wear suits & ties? roflmao ...


I kknow what you mean, and when I'm acting in an official function with the same people my boss interacts with, then I do dress like him. I wear my suits to board meetings; I wear heels to meetings with politicians, etc.


But most of my interaction is done with our members .. who are everyday average joes, busy running their businesses and not thumbing through GQ. THOSE are the people I need to be concerned about.


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I've NEVER said that. My stance is that appropriate and fashionable are two different things. Of course one should always dress appropriately for the job. And I stated earlier that I always do.


Sorry if I sound snitty. I'm just having a *very rough* day.





Edited 4/1/2004 12:05 pm ET ET by savcal_ok

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:08am
I have a feeling that this is profession and location dependent. When dh was interviewing for jobs (PhD looking for research areas in biology/biochemistry) it was a very tricky balance between not dressed up enough and too dressed. The classic suit was definitely out: most scientists doing the interviewing tended to see that as pretentious. Jeans and t-shirts were generally a bit too casual so nice pants, sports jacket and a decent shirt was about the best he could usually come up with that was neither too formal nor too casual. Lately, there have been a lot of interviews in my dept. and pretty nearly every person to be interviewed has shown up in some variation of jeans and t-shirt (usually a pretty chic combination of jeans and t-shirt but jeans and t-shirt nonetheless). One potential candidate showed up a rather formal outfit and people were commenting on it for days. It wasn't seen as bad per se, just rather unusual.

I think Sweden is by nature extremely informal, even in the business section of town in the middle of the day there are very few suits to be seen, and even the highest level business meetings have a large share of very casual dressers. Nice kakhis and a decent shirt is usually considered plenty formal enough. Unfortunately, dh got so used to this mode of business dress that he found himself seriously embarrassed on a business trip to the UK once. He showed up in his usual meeting clothing of nice corduroys and a sweater and faced a room full of pin-striped suits (including the one woman in the room). On the other hand, I've known a couple of very formally dressed UK people to feel equally embarrassed when they showed up to a meeting and faced a room full of people in jeans and t-shirts :-).


Laura

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