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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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No one views you as evil. As a SAHM myself, I do, however, find your statements ignorant and judgemental.
Jenna
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I was thinking of earlier posts too--about formal weddings and adults-only cocktail parties. My friends and associates are so much less formal. Jeans for all occasions, pot-luck dinners, camping trips & backyard BBQs. To tell you the truth, I'd enjoy the chance to really dress up once in a while. I'd love to own one fabulous cocktail dress, but I don't know that I'd ever have the occasion to wear it. Once and a while, I'd like someone to break out the good china when I come over!
BTW, even though I work in the very casual software industry, I did wear a suit, nylons, and makeup for my last job interview. Several of the people interviwing me were in jeans. But I got the job, so I must have done something right.
Dana
Let me give you an example: My husband frequently works anywhere from 40 to 60 hours a week. He and our son have an extremely close relationship. But "how can that be???" you ask. Well it's because my husband absolutely adores him and loves to spend time with him. My husband looks forward to coming home and really being with him. Kids sense that.
Now on the other hand. I have a friend whose husband works the same exact hours. Yet doesn't have the same relationship with his kids. Why? Because he would much rather be doing something else. Playing with his kids is more work than enjoyment for him. Well, again, kids sense that.
I am friends with plenty of WOHMs who have just as close relationships with their children. So there blows your ironclad theory.
So the SAHM's you know can pat themselves on the back all they want. But WOHM's are doing the right thing too. Even if that is tough for you to swallow.
My oldest and youngest are both really small. In fact my oldest was just referred for a bone age test to see if his growth is on track. He only grew half an inch in the past year. He is 10 years old and only 51 inches tall. He wears a size 8 in pants. Joe is 5 years old and wears a size 5 in clothes. Zack is 7 and wears a size 8 slim. He is the only normal height child in the family although he is very slim and the other 2 are average build.
Jenna
The reason for not wearing "bright-white" in colder weather (except for blouses under a suit, which are OK anytime) dates back to the days when coal was the most common heat source. When coal was common, coal dust settled on everything, and as it is oily, it nearly always ruins bright whites. The dust settles on the creases and permanently etches in the crease lines, and it is nearly impossible to remove, even w/ bleach.
It used to be that except for underclothing and shirtwaists, "office" clothing could not be washed; you just brushed it down and pressed it between wearings. The reason for all the layers of underwear was to absorb the perspiration before it reached the valuable outer fabric. Colors were not fast, and fabrics would warp and/or shrink if immersed in hot water and harsh detergent.
"Winter white" as a color has existed for centuries, the reference is to white wool.
Up until the late 1930's when dry-cleaning became commonly available and relatively affordable, it was usually only worn by wealthy people, because it was so difficult to keep clean unless you spent your time in somewhat rarified surroundings.
In the days before air-conditioning (and the tolerance of excessive skin exposure in public), fine linen was the coolest possible fabric one could wear. Old dyes didn't hold well on it, which was why it was nearly always either white or unbleached. These days, you do encounter lots of folks in the subtropical South who will wear dark-coloured linen outside of summer, even though there is a "rule" about linen, too.
P.S. I'm so glad you've become a "regular." I love reading your posts.
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