Sneaking purchases...
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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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I was a varsity athlete too for a yr at a top, private college, and believe me there was no "coasting." My experience at a private school was different from yours. I met "Einsteins." Certainly, an education is as good as you make it. But, not every Einstein is going to reach her potential at State U, like you did. Many would thrive at MIT, but be bored, lazy, and unchallenged at some State U's. I think it's presumptuous for any SAHM to tell a WOHM to stay home now, your children need you, you can get by on cutting coupons and buying second-hand and not saving for college for a few yrs, when the WOHM putting even a pittance aside each year for her children's educations is actually doing more for her children. That SAHM may just have to tell her 16 yr-old, sorry, despite having a genius IQ, you can't afford MIT on our small college fund, your tiny summer job earnings and the bit of financial aid offered by the gov. Militant SAHMs may be foreclosing their children's opportunities before they've even entered kindergarten!
You: "One more thing - say you have one of these Einsteins and send them to the "best" 40k school around, it's no guarantee of his/her future - they might decide to study (quelle horror!) a language, history (w/ no desire to study law afterwards), or something they actually enjoy!" Me: Believe me, I will dissuade them from studying the law! I would definitely be happy with the situation you described and want them to enjoy any field THEY chose, so long as it's their choice. My fear is foreclosing opportunities before we even see what the child is capable of.
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PumpkinAngel
First of all, I never said that a WOHM should stay home at the possible expense of providing for her children's future college fund. I was simply debating the fact that our children can receive (or make for themselves?) an excellent education at a state school.
I do not believe that having a SAHP or WOHP has anything to do with the quality of their education - in fact, a student's education is largely based on what THEY make of it.
I would never deny my child the opportunity to go to college - any college, but you seem to assume everyone here is intent on paying for their children's college (and grad school) expenses - some may contribute, some may pay it all, some might make their child responsible for all of it. I'm in the "pay it all" camp (except for grad school), DH, who paid his own expenses 100% is on the "contribute some" side. I have 18 years to win him over.
Never. Which is a really long time, from what I understand.
I wouldn't say I'm a *total* nonconformist and would want to see the post and context of the original statement, but if "total nonconformist" means, I wear black often, white never and only own one purse at a time, which is ALWAYS black, then, yes, I guess I am.
But then again, given those OTHER people on the thread who have said they do the same thing, there are a lot of us "total nonconformists" on this board..."a lot" given that nonconformity would tend to suggest smaller numbers than what has been registered here.
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