Sneaking purchases...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
1291
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

      &nbs

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 5:59pm
Even a cursory review of my posts or profile would have revealed that you have me confused with someone else, but I guess you'd just rather speak in total ignorance. I daresay I am in the same tax bracket as you. Yet unlike you I do somehow manage not to be a criminal, petty or otherwise. I do recall you being about to pop a vein over people accepting welfare benefits to SAH for a year. Guess it's OK for you to take advantage by buying counterfeit or stolen goods, though.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:18pm
>>>We believe that working status doesn't effect your ability to parent, we realize that many people have many different situations and nothing is right or perfect for everyone.

PumpkinAngel<<<

But let's be honest...you have to say you believe that work status doesn't affect your parenting, otherwise what a hypocrit you all would be. That's the whole premise of this debate for many of us. We who SAH DO believe that spending 40 hours a week away from especially young children DOES affect the parent-child relationship. It is okay that we feel differently about this. That's why its a debate. :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:41pm
Whos this *we*??? I never felt that way as a sah, my reasons for sah didnt have anything to do with concerns about the parent-child relationship. If that were the case, I'd have insisted my dh sah too. How is the parent-child relationship between your husband and children?

Oh and whatever *we* you are discussing STILL doesnt include you. You are NOT a ft sahm.


dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:45pm
Wow, that was a really nasty comment coming out of no where. When did Lois pee in your Wheaties?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:48pm

Yes, lets be honest.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:51pm
I was a SAHM for 12 years, DH has always worked outside the home. His relationship with our children is no less than mine nor is he less bonded to them or they to him. I really did think that those 12 years at home would somehow give me extra "points" but it didn't. If my DH as a WOHD can have a great relationship with his children I have no doubt that a WOHM can also.

Do you think that your DH had less of a relationship with your children than you do?


Edited 4/1/2004 8:53 pm ET ET by texigan

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:56pm
>>>Whos this *we*??? I never felt that way as a sah, my reasons for sah didnt have anything to do with concerns about the parent-child relationship. If that were the case, I'd have insisted my dh sah too. How is the parent-child relationship between your husband and children? <<<

Well, now isn't that a solution? So, who do you know that thinks its ok to have a NO income household so both parents can SAH all day? That's just silly and you know it. Am I to believe that you are of the mentality that if both can't stay home, no one should get to? How is none better than one? And if you weren't staying home for the sake of your children, why WERE you SAH? Were you being lazy, or couldn't find the right job, or what? I don't know that I would be shouting from the rooftops, "Oh I SAH, but its not for the betterment of my kids, its just b/c I don't want to work." Hardly admirable, you think?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 7:58pm
>>>I can't tell tone on this board but do you really mean to come across to me and others as judgmental and as condescending as you do time and time again? or am I mistaking your tone. :)<<<

I could ask you the same thing...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:08pm
<>

What a complete lie. You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:30pm
Well that was a pretty snotty response....yet still didn't answer her question.

PumpkinAngel

Pages