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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Yes but you didn't ask that now did you....would you like to point out a post where I was judgmental or condescending to someone?
PumpkinAngel
To answer her question, which was something to the effect of my dh's relationship with our kids...I admire him for how hard he works at using what little time he has with them to truly try and build a foundation with them. It is sooo important. We both wish he had more time, but sadly, families cannot do without any income. We thank God that at least one of us is able to be with the children all the time. We are so glad we are able to see past the material things to realize that for us, his income can provide 99% of our needs. He loves our children very much, and does his best in the time he has. And he realizes the value of my having 40+ more hours a week than he does. If both of you work, neither would have the benefit of seeing the difference of one parent being at home and one not. But if you fill those 40+ hours with parental love, parental time, education, etc, than they DO make a difference. To deny that is ignorant. Sure your DC can provide those same things, but NOT in the same capacity that you as their parent can. To believe that a dc provider will love and nurture you child THE SAME AS YOU DO, is selling yourself short, that's all there is to it.
<> So tell me how your DH is any different than any other parent that works. He's not. Most WOHPs do exactly that.
<> Again, how is your DH different than any other WOHP?
<> How do you know what kind of schedules people here have? How do you know they're not working opposite shifts? How do you know they don't have flexible schedules and are home with their kids every day after school? You assume too much based on your narrow views of what constitues a dual WOHP household. Maybe if you actually were part of one of those households you'd have a clue as to how they work. As it is you're assuming things about families that have no basis in reality.
<> Yeah, right, like my next-door-neighbor growing up. She was a SAHM of 8 kids. Filthier home, more repugnant family you'd never want to meet. Don't assume that just because a parent is home that there's any more love or education or personal time than a WOHP. To deny that is ignorant.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
If this was your view of how it would be if you stayed home with your children, its no wonder you chose to work. As for the rest of us here, I think its fair to say this wouldn't describe anyone posting here. But thanks for your insight that not all SAHMs are good ones. I happen not to fall into that category, so it doesn't really apply to me. I choose to be the best SAHM I can.
What I think is highly insulting is your insinuation that wohms are not as caring or *good* as you are. I just hope they are raising their children with a less judgemental attitude than the one you convey.
And in regards to that attitude-what if you have a dd who ends up in a very high powered career that she does not feel the need to give up when she has children. Going to look down on HER too?????
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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