Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:27am
Couldn't agree more!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:29am

It is different. But I don't think it hurts them to spend time, even that much time, with people who love them in a different way.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:31am
But she not only has not admitted it, she continues to make up her own definition of SAHM and denies all of the posts stating that she is really a PT WOHM!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:36am
<> You implied that children were safer in homes with their parents than in DC. I'm merely providing facts that reported cases of abuse are higher in homes with parents.

<> Nope, not meaningless. Reported cases are not meaningless.

<> Uhhhh, where did this statement come from?

<> What does that have anything to do with me? I never posted to her anything about her work status. And why is it so hard for her to admit she's a PT WOHM? Is it a dirty word? Is it a negative thing? If you don't like the way others are "pinning her to the mat" (pretty ridiculous analogy) then jump in and defend her. But since I'm not one of the ones "pinning her" your comments to me are way off.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:37am
No, I trust myself. I trust that I can judge how the shoe fits based on trying it on, haveing them walk around etc.

A healthy normal foot doesn't need expensive shoes anymore than healthy normal eyes need glasses.

Edited to add - If you WANT to buy your kids expensive shoes and can afford it, more power to you. But don't pretend the rest of us who don't are harming our kids.


Edited 4/2/2004 10:38 am ET ET by mappers

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:37am
Yes, I agree with the points you make in the second paragraph of your post.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:40am

Great, I don't trust myself to measure each foot accurately.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:42am

I think you're taking a very narrow view of the word "love". Ds' teacher often says, as I drop him off in the morning, "Oh I just love you you cutie, I could eat you up" or something similar. Even teachers in other classrooms will say "I just love Callahan. He's such a cutiepie".


Is it the same type of "love" that I or his father or his uncles have for him? No, of course not. He's got enough of that type of love already. Can't do anything but *add* to his life to get some of the "love" of the above type too.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:43am

Excuse me?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:44am

<<I've thought dc providers look at it as a job, sometimes an overworked, underpaid job with often a high turnover rate even in the best dcs. >>


I can look at that two ways. If it is so overworked and underpaid, that just proves that thye do *love* their job. Why else would they do it for so little appreciation and pay?


Or ... no wonder you think so poorly of dc if you think the providers have no personal stake in their job.


I haven't experienced high turnover in any of the 3 daycares I've had ds/dd in. In fact, most of the lead teachers dd had were with the center for over 10 years.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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