Sneaking purchases...

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Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 10:51am
Ooooh that reminds me! I have this really cool shoe measuring tool that I have never seen outside of Sweden which I use to really check each shoe. The measuring tape is set into a plastic holder that exactly fits at the back of the shoe and then one can push the tape forward until it hits the toe part and find out exactly how big the shoe is inside. I love it because I can keep track of whether the shoes are still fitting or not. My kids would wear their shoes forever, even when they were getting too small, if I didn't keep an eye on it. I usually get the kids' feet measured at a shoe store (every place, even the cheap places, measure the feet) and then I can check all the shoes that the kids like to make sure that they are really the right size before they try them on.

Laura

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 10:56am
OK, see, now this is the harshness that I was talking about earlier!

You: "Oh..I'm so sorry. Even my kids, while still young have had some great teachers who HAVE loved my sons. I was just talking to his K teacher today and she was so happy to have him back at school after being sick for two days...and as she said 'I really love the little guy'. Maybe I can see now where you are coming from, if you have never had any adults in your life that have made a positive love experience than you might not know it's out there." Me: Where is that coming from? It's unnecessarily manipulative.

In addition, I'm sure you have me confused with someone else. Where have I posted anything in a voice even arguably militant SAHM-ish? Did I say I think all women should SAH?

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:12am

Huh?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:19am
Heres the rub though. Funsahm isnt a ft sahm. Like me, she is a pt wohm. She just wants to pretend she is a ft sahm. A lot of the flack she is getting stems from her insistance that regardless of the fact that she woh pt, she is still to be considered a sahm because her dh is with the children while she works. By that logic, any ft wohm who works a night shift or splits shifts with their dh to avoid using dc is a ft sahm!!! I mean, I am home more than I am not, and my kids have never been to dc, but that doesnt mean I'm going to run around calling myself a ft sahm. Thats just silly.

Funsahm also stated that wohms are losing some kind of valuable parent-child connection. No one is saying both parents should stay home-but why is it okay for the working parent (dad) to lose that valuable connection???? How is it dad manages to work and still have a connection to his kids??

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:24am
But, counselor, and I know you do corporate, but if at a deposition or trial you make your point once and the witness is obviously lying, don't you just move forward with your next question content in the knowledge that you've gotten the answer you wanted? She concedes she works 10 hrs away from her children. What do you WOHMs here want - to draw blood? LOL. You even said here, you're never going to get her to admit she's pt. Why beat her up? That's why Funsahm's defensive and accusing you guys of attacks.

I think after the first WOHM pointed out that she's truly a PT WOHM, you can use your common sense - just like a jury does, right? I think we all know when someone's not being forthcoming.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:33am
You know what? That wasn't harsh at all. If you think it was, you have a very thin skin. Why don't you go back and read funsahm's posts and let us know if her little digs and innuendos were "harsh."

This is a debate board. Tempers are going to flare and sarcasm abounds. If you can't take it, you might want to find yourself a nice friendly safe support board.

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:41am
Hey pumpkin! Another thing we have in common. We've both been accused of being "harsh" in the same thread! LOL!
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:44am
I have to LOL.

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:48am

For me, and my ignorant comment to lois, it was that I don't feel comfortable measuring or evaluating the right size for my childrens' feet (which appear to be a bit unusual per this thread) and that I had no clue Payless or any more reasonable places had measure-it-yourself metal thingys.


I see paying the higher price in order to get the service, and the reassurance re: sizing, not just quality.

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:49am
Yes, that's what I do.

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