Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:50am
Hey, the calendar says spring but the weather here says late winter!

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:52am

LOL...that will teach me to show some empathy and understanding won't it?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:53am
I buy shoes in a style or color I like, in size 8.5.

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:56am

I would take silence from her as a concession.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:58am
Yeah, how dare you! LOL!
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:16pm
Well, I HAVE been around awhile. And quite truthfully, she's right. There AREN"T alot of positive things said by SAHMs about WOHMs (and vice versa). It seems the SAHMs spend most of their time trying to get someone to affirm their choices for them.

I find that most WOHMs (IRL, too) feel so comfortable that they are doing the right thing that there really is just little need to continue to try to provide examples of all the good that comes from WOH.. On the other hand, alot of SAHMs will list and list all kinds of reasons why there kids are okay in spite of their not working (or b/c of it), and how they "can't imagine" scheduling their time.

somehow trying to "prove" that their work status isn't harming their kids. I'm not saying it is I'm just saying that it seems like *SOME* SAHMs are trying to prove something, or justify something. I know many of you here say you are quite confident with your choices, but what you are trying to write and what you actually convey with your words are sometimes 2 very different things.

Yep, fits both ways, exactly the same. So maybe it is the person/parent and not the employment status.

SUS

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:23pm
The shoe sales people must love you! I'm the mom that's getting the dirty looks for making them measure my dd's feet (she's screaming during this as she for some reasons hates to have her feet restrained in that metal thingy), then taking out gazillion pairs of shoes to bend/flex/squeeze them (how will you know if the shoe is nice and flexible if you don't?), then having my dd try on a bunch of them with me poking my fingers in all directions to make sure there's enough wiggle room, then taking a year to decide which light pattern I like the best. My dh refuses to go shoe shopping with me.
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:25pm
I WAH/SAH because it works for me. Period. In the given set of circumstances for my family , having me quit my job and WAH was the least stressful option for me. It created a new kind of stress, but one that ultimately more manageable than the alternative - FOR ME. This allows me to have the relationships I want with my family.

Our situation could change tomorrow and the changes could effect my working status. If it was determined that it would be less stressful for ME to WOH, I would.

SUS

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:33pm
You: "Just because the possibility exists doesn't mean that it is probable or wide-spread. I am sure that people quit wonderful jobs out fear, that doesn't mean that the fear is necessarily justified. It might be, it is usually not." Me: Definitely. I hope for the best for every child, while at the same time being suspicious of adults. In the words of I, Claudius (the movie, I never did read the books): Trust no one. You won't be disappointed.

Also, don't some European countries go so far as to make spanking a crime (a misdemeanor in US definition)? Do Sweden and/or Switzerland? If so, I think that has to affect this cultural passivity. If so, then it doesn't necessarily mean the people of Sweden and/or Switzerland are just by nature more passive with discipline, it may be a reality that, since it's punishable by fine/imprisonment, let's all just be a little more hands-off in disciplining our children?

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:36pm

You just "buy them"? Wow.


I've got probably 6 pairs of shoes I wear on a regular basis. That all fit. 2 pairs are 7.5W; 1 pair is an 8W; most are 8.5 or 8.5W; and one is a 9. I can't imagine just walking into a shoe store, picking up a pair in a size and that's it. Every shoe maker; ever shoe style differs ..


My boots are 9 becasue the 8.5s wouldn't zip up at the thigh. My new suede flats are a 7.5W, since they're not a pointy toe, a 7.5 works.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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