Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:39pm
OK, then let's adopt that terminology. In the less than ideal dc situation, there is certainly room for abuse of this sort of thing.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:41pm

It's hard to believe, but one of the parents at my provider's home daycare took her child OUT because they felt she got too much attention and was held too much! My Nana refuses to let crying babies alone, she never has more than one or two infants (and she has an assitant too).

Mondo

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:44pm
My children are basically good, so I can overlook a bit and see a lot of misbehavior as being a phase they'll outgrow. A pointed "Absolutely not," and never going back on my saying, "No," have worked for us so far. I would say I yell at someone about once every three or four days. Not ideal, but that's how I do it.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:45pm
yes and In the less than ideal SAH situation, there is certainly room for abuse of this sort of thing

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:47pm

But we aren't in a court of law.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:53pm

Sounds very similar to the methods we utilize in our household, my boys are 6 & 8.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:58pm
Do you imagine absolutely NO difference in your children should they have a SAHP? (Good or bad.) I can think of a lot of possible differences in my children if I didn't SAH.
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 2:00pm

What is working for us (DD is VERY vocal, just like her Dad!) is to name yelling, and screaming as Naughty Talk.

Mondo

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 2:00pm

<< In the less than ideal dc situation, there is certainly room for abuse of this sort of thing.>>


I think in a less than ideal situation anywhere, there is certainly room for abuse of CIO.


But

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 2:10pm
As you know, but feign ignorance about, it is quite manipulative to say, "I'm so sorry,"...and I empathize for your deprivations..."Maybe I can see now where you are coming from, if you have never had any adults in your life that have made a positive love experience than you might not know it's out there." In fact, your comments are the very definition of manipulative. But don't worry, I think I've overcome such sad, deprived beginnings and am doing OK now! LOL. In fact, if I had been loved by a teacher, it probably would've made my skin crawl and I would've at the time said something like, "Eww, that's just grody to the max." Yes, I'm dating myself. But, I had friends and family I loved and hung out with. Teachers were for instructing, coaching, brainstorming, picking my brain and helping me get into college.

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