Sneaking purchases...
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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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No, not at all. It's not at all to her and her children's credit that she calls herself "just a SAHM."
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No, I don't know...but now I am making up things or feigning ignorance? Plus I am being manipulative as well?
PumpkinAngel
Ds was a VERY colicky baby who started teething at 3m (had ALL his teeth by 18mo, even his 2 year molars-in fact he just LOST his first tooth already!!). I dont think he ever slept more than 10-11 hrs total, even when he was tiny. In order to comfort him, you had to carry him propped up in your arms so he faced outward and could *see*. We have more pictures of us walking around like that with him!! I honestly dont know that a dc provider could have handled it-he was a challenge (makes up for it now thank goodness). Plus, he went through some pretty intense separation anxiety, I am thankful that I was able to kind of let him ride it out on his terms rather than forcing him to adjust before he was ready. Despite his extreme attachment to me, by 3 he walked into his preschool classroom with nary a glance back at me, which makes me feel that we did do the right thing by being able to give him that extra time.
Now, I certainly dont think that my kids would have been *harmed* by my woh ft. We probably would have gone the nanny route or au pair (you know my dc issues). It would have been a little harder on them overall I think though, if I hadnt been able to be home the majority of the time.
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Dj
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After reading your last post, you might try practicing what your preach.
PumpkinAngel
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I think when we're talking about the rates of abuse in family vs other-care, that we're basically talking the more egregious forms of physical/sexual abuse. Not the possibility of a child having her self-esteem damaged by an overly critical mother or an overly critical daycare provider, which are both bad situations, but hard to measure because it's not the kind of thing that's going to show up on morbidity reports.
ROFLMAO!
Hollie
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