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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Where's that "bangingyourheadagainstthebrickwall" icon?
We have *repeatedly* said that all our children's lives would be *different* if we WOHMs chose to SAHMs. Different. *different* DIFFERENT. DiFfErEnT
But different doens't mean worse. Its just different. My kids might be better at putting their toys away if I was home with them instead of working. But dd wouldn't have her gymnastics ability because I couldn't afford the lessons. Ds might not still have his pacifier if I SAH, but he also might not know all the words to 153 nursery rhymes. There would be lots of differences. But its my *parenting* that will help them to be happy, responsible, independent, intelligent adults in 18 years; not my work status.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
In my home, I would only be using timeouts for when I lose my temper, so I don't think they should be used on my children. Other more even-tempered moms/dads may be using timeouts in a more fair way. In my home, they'd be somewhat abusive because not really disciplining my children, just me regrouping, which isn't a bad idea, but I often get over it by leaving a room saying, Mommy's going potty, and then return hopefully in a better temper. I'm not saying I'm doing a good job, just you asked how I handle things.
I'm curious you have posted quite a bit about children being abused to use your term for CIO before naps, time outs, arm pulling and etc, in a daycare setting.....do you have first hand knowledge that these abuses for lack of better word, occur in daycares in your area or anywhere?
PumpkinAngel
PumpkinAngel
No we're discussing SAH and WOH. Thus, the topic of the board.
If your contention is that some dc is a poor option because of the chance of abuse, then SAH is a poor option too, because there is also the chance of abuse there.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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