Sneaking purchases...

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Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 4:50pm
You maybe have said this before, and I know I have, but I have certainly seen people insist that their children would be no different at all if their work status was different. (To me that is just silly.)
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 4:58pm
I can see getting Stride Rites because they're the only ones that carry your child's size shoes. However I can't imagine what makes you have confidence that the size the measurer gives is identical to the size that the shoe actually is. I'm just thinking of how many different size pants I have that fit, it all seems to depend on the style, manufacturer, etc. Heck, I just had DS trying on stuff at Old Navy - so all the same manufacturer - and only one pair of pants that were said to be his size actually fit even remotely properly. I don't see that the measuring gives you any more than a starting point to find shoes that fit.
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 5:03pm
Gee, your last lines were original. I've never read them here.

Why should I reread Funsahm's posts? I didn't write them so you're wrong imply because she insulted you, I'M fair game for your slights. How silly!

You don't think it's kinda insulting to say to someone something like, Yes, you were unloved by adults when you were a child so you can't possibly understand where we're all coming from - unlike you, we were loved as children. It's OK for the majority here to decry Funsahm's comments against WOH, but when I call someone on an insult, you tell me to have a thicker skin? Sounds a little unbalanced to me.

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 5:14pm
< Do you imagine absolutely NO difference in your children should they have a SAHP? (Good or bad.) I can think of a lot of possible differences in my children if I didn't SAH.>

It's interesting that you ask that because I asked that very question to my dh a little while back when I was toying with the idea of working odd shifts to be home with my dd more. I happen to think that there will be some (not a lot but a little) difference, but my dh thought that there will likely be *no* difference. I didn't know whether to be happy that he has that much confidence in our nanny or be insulted.
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 5:17pm
I didn't see your post b/f posting to another one about difference w/ a SAHP. Maybe my dh needs to have his head examined, huh.

Edited to clarify: the post I'm referring to is #745


Edited 4/2/2004 6:19 pm ET ET by iaudrey00
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 5:22pm

EXCUSE ME?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:05pm
<<<>>>

and *that* my dear is a very ignorant attitude. i did sah with my children. you are under the @$$umption everyone who sah with their children, absolutely looooove it. that is so not true. i did love it for the first few years, but it got old, and i wanted more for *me*.

otoh, my sister has worked ft her whole adult life, and would have been silly to stop a great career when she wouldnt have been happy at home 24/7 either.

sah is *not* the "be all, end all" for everyone. maybe for you, but we are not all you, and frankly im glad im me and not you!!

p.s. if you put my children who had a sahm in a room with my sister's kids who had a wohm, you wouldnt be able to pick which is which, so your theory is simply that and nothing more.

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:10pm
Excuse me.....lauren's kids had way more cool experiences than my kids who sahft, as we didnt have the means to do those fun things, ie: swim lessons, field trips, that her children could and did, and guess what, their parents love them just as much as i love mine!! imagine that! AND, this will blow your mind, her kids are extremely intellegent, very calm, polite loving children, and lauren accomplished all this AND wohft!! shes good, oh yeah, shes real good!!!
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:27pm
What a load of crap!!! my kids are 21, 20 and 16, that does not negate me as an experienced mother who loved/loves her children as much as any other mother on here, and *most* of my techniques were right on the money.

Honey, you have a lot to learn. Us very experienced moms have raised some pretty awesome kids and guess what they are humans just like your kids. nothing is different. schools were just as wild when i was in school, the world is just as crazy, or maybe a tad less crazy than the 60s and 70s.

you sound just like my kids.....that was then and this is now. moms arent any smarter today than they were 20, 40, 60 years ago!

sheesh, the more you post the deeper you dig yourself into a hole. let me know when you get to china, we'll order up some take-out!!!

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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:33pm
Oh, we just learned all that in the past 20 years????? you're hilarious! ROFLMAO!!!

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