Sneaking purchases...
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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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I looked for DCPs who had a warm, loving relationship with the kids they cared for...not in the words they spoke, in the body language....and not so much in the DCP's body language, but rather, in the body language of the children they cared for. When I interviewed DCPs, I did so at least once while they had their kids there. I looked for kids who sought the DCPs physical "protection" in the presence of strangers (like kids who looked to the DCP for cues as to how to react to the presence of a stranger, or kids who would approach the DCP and touch or otherwise physically seek her comfort and guidance.) I looked for a DCP who displayed unconscious, natural signs of affection herself, such as reaching out to touch a child who was approaching, even if her vocal attention remained on me.
It's pretty easy to find good, loving DCPs, if you look at the children she watches. Children in a loving, secure environment will demonstrate that love and security in the same way they demonstrate it when Mom or Dad is around. They expect the DCP to give them cues as to how to react (whether to laugh or cry when they fall, whether to be safe or cautious around a stranger). They seek physical contact from the DCP. They aren't hesitant to approach the DCP or indifferent to her. Yeah, you'll find the occasional super confident kid who doesn't react too strongly to strangers, but by and large it's easy to tell if a DCP really loves her kids by the way those kids behave towards her in the presence of a stranger.
And yes, I not only expected my DCP to love my child, it was pretty much a requirement. When it came time to choose among several good, qualified candidates, I ultimately chose the one that John seemed to like and bond with best.
Says a lot, frankly, and not about pumpkinangel.
ROFLOL! TOO FUNNY!
eileen
Question for you. How exactly do you discipline?
How about when funsahm declared that she KNEW that a WOHM isn't as devoted to her own kids as a sahm is. Where were you and your Politeness Police tights then?
How about when funsahm declared WOHMs are destroying their relationship with their kids? Where were you and your defense against "ugly" then? Hmmm?
Cuz I'd really like to know how you can claim to only want "productive discussion" when you remain silent and hidden while a SAHM launches all those ugly bombs but suddenly you're Fairness Personified if WOHM have the audacity to respond to those accusations.
Whatever.
As for the rest of our post, let's see if we can wrap any kind of meaning around it. Here we go:
<> Maybe perhaps to see where you're being hypocritical with other posters in accusing them of something funsahm is guilty of doing herself. But if you dont read them, then you can feign ignorance as to what she is posting. Quite convenient for you.
<> Fair game? Honey, this is a debate board. Try to wrap your mind around that. If you're going to defend someone, try defending someone who hasn't pulled the same crap you're accusing others of, okay? Actually, I think you're the "silly" one. But I'm sure you really don't care about what I think. But that's okay. I really don't think much of your biased opinions.
<> Nope, I don't. You're the one who said you were unloved by your teachers and thought that love for them was "grody to the max." And you've said you can't understand how other adults can love other kids.
<> Oh, please. Get a grip. You're defending someone who is as guilty of doing what you're so against.
<> Sounds like you're a little hypocritical to me.
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