Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 5:21am
Speak for your state, LOL. I don't care what the calendar says, it ain't spring here until the ski centers close. (Just switch to pastel wool, LOL.)

Actually, it broke 60 here last weekend. It seemed so warm compared to what we're used to that people were out all over wearing shorts.

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 5:50am
And I frankly find your disrespect of the hall janitor as quite sad. Is it OK to be loved by a teacher but not by a janitor? Ridiculous. Why, just because janitors deal with cleaning up dirt and other people's messes? No wonder this attitude here toward SAHMs! Back then and as now, I respect both janitors and teachers and accord them equal deference. Both teachers and janitors have very demanding jobs. They work hard and are most likely both underpaid in terms of their values to society.

Yes, a teen is going to be grossed out when her teacher declares he loves her like his own child. Yuck. My teachers did their jobs...and my parents did theirs. Their (and my extended family's and my adult friends') love was sufficient for me as it would be for any child.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 5:54am
Kind of like I figured there must be, but had never actually met, people so fearful of their children being crippled by discount footwear that they were willing to buy the $42 dollar Stride Rite shoes that would be worn for 4 months.
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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 6:08am

Spring has really sprung around here...the grass is that green you only get in spring, the tulips and other bulbs are up and in bloom.

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 6:43am
I always put my DDs to sleep on their bellies because my mother told me to to prevent choking. Then shortly after DD3 was born the recommendations were changed. I really don't know how much of a difference it makes anyway because as soon as a baby can roll over they will start to sleep in the position that is most comfortable for them.
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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 6:44am
Well it was in the last century.
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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 6:58am
As I've often said I think that the kids personality has much more to do with it then the parents working status. Some poster have said that thir child beng exposed to day care young has made them more outgoing. No, they just happened to get an outgoing child. I have three very different DDS on very reserved, one extremely outgoing and one in the middle. They would have those differnces no matter what their experiences were.
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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 7:26am
Is it really asking so much that you only debate the things I actually write instead of making stuff up as you go along? Because this habit of yours is old, stale, lame and FAR more manipulative on your part than anything anyone else has written towards you...like on an order of magnitude.

Misrepresentation #1. I didn't dismiss ANYONE, let alone the "hall janitor"--I never even SPOKE of the hall janitor. If you would actually READ what I wrote instead of presuming to know what I wrote without doing so, you might have noticed I SAID *mall* (with an "M", not an "H") janitor. Nor did I in ANY way dismiss or make light or disrespect janitors as a group, despite your flagrant misrepresentation.

What I ACTUALLY said was: "I find your dimissal of the role of teachers in your life to something barely above mall janitor to be pretty sad." that's not saying janitors' are worthy of contempt, nor does it even imply it...well, at least not to anyone with a 6th grade or above education. What it SAYS and IMPLIES is that teachers are far more likely to have a long-term, on-going RELATIONSHIP with their students that would be either missing between shoppers and the mall janitor or at the very least, much more intimate and involved than a shopper and the mall janitor (presuming, of course, one is neither related to nor dating the mall janitor, another post entirely).

However, you seem content to dismiss teachers as HAVING any real tangible role in a child's life; apparently in your world, teachers are peripheral at best and need not even be in the room at the same TIME as students to do their jobs, much like a janitor. Whatever.

Misrepresentation #2: Your blathering on and on about disrespect for janitors. Nothing more than a strawman argument that you built, apparently, in order to avoid my actual, and valid, comments.

Misrpresentation #3:"Yes, a teen is going to be grossed out when her teacher declares he loves her like his own child."

Perhaps so, but no one has said anyting of the kind. Not even similar. No one said a teacher would love her students "like own child." That's just a fallacy you've thrown in to attempt to appear as if you actually had a point. What we SAID is that a teacher will likely love her students. The only one adding the "like her child" nonsense is you and again, this refusal of yours to debate with the kind of integrity that would have you addressing the ACTUAL posts, instead of making up what you'd rather we'd said and arguing against that, says far more about you than any WOHM on this board.

When you have the integrity to debate our actual words instead of making up falsehoods, give me a call.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 7:58am

ARRGGH! Where's the damn icon?


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First of all, *most* of us said while we expected dc and cc providers to love our children, it was a different kind of love. We all mostly expressed a difference between the type of love of a parent, a dc teacher and a hs teacher. So quite turning it back around to things we didn't even say.


That said, I had two teachers in hs that I would say "loved" me. Like their own child? No. But there was a familial love relationship there. One was my cheerleading sponsor and freshman english teacher. She was also the mother of one of my best friends. We had a lot of deep conversations. She saw me cry over boyfriends. She saw me cry over grades. She saw me happy winning 6th place a national competition. The second was my jr english teacher

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 8:00am

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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