Sneaking purchases...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 12:55pm
But IMO you don't need that kind of "love" to care for children well (DCP that is). I bet when you're nursing, you care for your patients well, but you don't really "love" them, and you certainly wouldn't do it for free. But that doesn't mean that your patients aren't getting great care from you. We have good DCP who do an extremely good job whether they truly "love" the kids or not.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:03pm
"Love" doesn't conquer all. I actually would prefer that my dcp is a caring human being with excellent judgement and knowlege than someone without all that and with just love for my kids. My FIL loves my dd to death, but I have serious doubts to his "ability" to take care of my dd on his own.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:11pm
Actually, I've been on the receiving end of some of your posts and I just want to throw my hands up and not even respond because you so have me pigeonholed into being something I'm not. Just because I'm a SAHM, doesn't mean my vision of WOH is myopic. I think we would all do well to remember our audience and mind the tone of our responses. For some reason, all of the WOHMs are getting very threatened by what I've written and I never intend to come across as criticizing WOHMs. I actually have a lot of respect for WOHMs.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:20pm
And the WOHMS are no more in the minds of the dcp than I. I never claimed to know better the internal workings of the dcp's mind than would the WOHM. Instead, I am 36, I know a lot about human nature by now, so I'd say my opinion is equally valid.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:27pm
I just won't demand or fool myself that the teacher must love my babes. It's OK if he/she just teaches!
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Registered: 11-20-2001
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:30pm

First I want to thank everyone here who gave great argument in defense of daycare providers ... your care providers, whoever they were and are, must be very special indeed.

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:31pm
Me too. And I hope my children's teachers just teach them. I'd get the ick factor if an unrelated non-friend adult told me he/she loved my child. The warning lights would go off.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:52pm

If you don't know what's in the mind of dcp, then why comment at all?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-20-2001
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:52pm

I have worked without pay ... seven weeks to be exact and have never gone after it.

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:59pm

You can now control love?

PumpkinAngel

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