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| Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am |
I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.
So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

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You should start a circus act with all that backpedaling.
<<I never claimed to know better the internal workings of the dcp's mind than would the WOHM>>
Not exactly, but you did claim to have more knowledge of daycare than WOHMs. Here's the quote ... <>
That right there states that you think, as a SAHM, that you have a better understanding of dc than a WOHM. How is that possible? If you have never worked as a dcp, nor used a dcp, how can you understand it better than a WOHM who has used dcp? Who on a daily basis has direct interaction with dcps?
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Dang I hit post before tackling your "free care" argument.
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
Once again, i think you have a very narrow definition of love.
<<In my world, as small as it may be, you either love someone unconditionally or you don't.>>
Bullcrap. My love for my xh was, obviously, conditional. I loved him on the condition that he didn't treat me and our children like crap and screw another woman. Oh, but since there were conditions involved, I guess I never loved him in the first place (at least, according to your theories).
Love is a very complicated emotion. You can't put it in a box and define it in narrow parameters.
And requiring love to be unconditional or to not exist at all is just silly.
I'd have missed out on a lot of love in my life if it was all required to be conditional. I'm glad I don't take that view, because its been great receiving all that conditional love.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I agree. The *ultimate* situation would be for children to be surrounded by *capable* and *loving* providers, be they family or not.
But, if its not gonna be both, i'll take capable over loving for othercare situations.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
<> I never said that just because you were a SAHM that your vision was myopic. I don't think being a SAHM has anything to do with your shortsightedness.
<> And perhaps you should take your own advice.
<> No, we're not threatened. We're debating. Big difference. I'm not threatened by opinions of people who have no clue about my life.
<> I do too. I have respect for all decent people whether they be SAHPs or WOHPs or any variation thereof.
Funny though, I find it interesting that you're responding to me about a response I made to funsahm. Are you perhaps one and the same person? The way your post is worded, it's very confusing.
Edited 4/6/2004 2:17 pm ET ET by laurenmom2boys
"you either love someone unconditionally or you don't."
Do you love your husband unconditionally? If he beat you and cheated on you would you still love him?
Do you love your mother unconditionally? If she hated your children would you still love her?
If unconditional love the only love that is worth anything, can you TRULY say that you love every family member (sister, brother, father) with NO CONDITIONS at all?
Is it possible that those in dc find changing the dirty diapers, toilet training accidents, vomited-upon clothes of babes not their own to be drudge work? Absolutely. There's a huge abyss of difference.
You: "But you know what's in their heads? How is that?" Me: The WOHMs make this wild accusation - based on their observations and based on what the dcps actually say - that most dcps LOVE their charges. It's nice that in this type of open forum, I'm equally permitted to hypothesize.
Few dcps have responded here, so I guess we're all mostly speaking in hypotheticals anyway. But, I do like the post of It's Me Again, a former childcare provider, who described that dcps will actually love only "a few" of the children in their care. Her words may be much more reliable than anything we Sahms or Wohms could say, don't you agree?
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