Sneaking purchases...

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Sneaking purchases...
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 11:10am

I was reading another board about sneaking purchases past their husband's. I know I use to sneak before we started doing our finances together. I would actually come home during lunch to get the mail or unload packages. I was pitiful. Even now, I will bring things in the house and wince thinking how upset Devin would be with me.


So, have you ever hid purchases or not told your DH the whole picture of your finances? We use to horrible fights about finances. I would do the weekly budget and e-mail him it. We would discuss it and everything was fine. Then, he would tell me two days later that he was doing a marathon that cost $75.00. I had to actually ask him before we did the budget-Do you have any marathons? Do you need shoes? Do you have any equipment you need? Can you tell I

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 5:39pm
<< It takes just a wee bit more intellectual creativity than I think you're capable of to get to me! But thanks for trying. I do enjoy a good debate when my opponent has a half a brain.>>

i think you must be reading a different board. but thanks for trying.

eileen

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 5:43pm
ROFLOL!
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 5:45pm
i've always wondered about that. WHY isn't it assumed that the effect would be POSITIVE? that's the way that we always expected it to be -- and it was.

i guess some people will always look for the negative in each and every thing -- sadly, they may miss some wonderfully positive experiences along the way.

eileen

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 5:51pm

No this particular vein of the thread was talking about teachers, homeschooling, and having teachers love their students.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 5:52pm
I don't know either.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 6:04pm
Oh darn it. You're not going to award me the blue ribbon? What are you in third grade? I thought this was a silly, mindless forum for entertainment. Shame that you're taking it all so seriously.

Let me understand. I've acknowledged my opinion on whether dcps honestly love children in their care is equal in value to the opinion of the WOHMs here. We all must acknowledge, don't we, that only the dcps can say what is truly in their own heads, right? There, I'm sure, we agree. Yet, you are now going to tell me that you know better than It's Me Again - despite her having been a dcp! She's the dcp who acknowledged, as I have said all along, that she only loved a few in her care.

So you're saying that here, as in all aspects of life, a WOHM knows more than...everybody? No wonder there are so few SAHMs on this board! LOL!

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 6:09pm
And I would say you're unethical in saying earlier that you can do in 8 hours what most do in 10. I'd like to check your billables. I may be delusional, but when I was a lawyer (now happily retired at age 32), I sure as heck didn't spend my days on message boards. (How many times do you post here everyday anyway?) And I sure didn't bill 10 hours when I admittedly only worked 8. Who in the world are you to judge me?
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 6:29pm

<<I thought this was a silly, mindless forum for entertainment. >>

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 6:31pm
Exactly. You do not love your subordinates and your dcp does not love your children. That is all I have been saying. You either love someone or you don't. It's so funny how the WOHMs are placing all of these qualifiers on this alleged love - it's a "different" kind of love, it's not the parental type and you here saying, "She loves the company of small children. She forms long-term bonds with her charges." Even you can't in good conscience despite that anonymity of the internet come out and say your dcp loves your children. Of course dcps don't love their charges. Can they care for them, foster a loving (as opposed to aggressive) environment, can they love their jobs? Sometimes. But, no, they do not love their charges except in the most rare of cases. Thank you for your honesty.
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 6:33pm

Oh and are you going to actually ANSWER the other questions or just deflect the debate?

PumpkinAngel

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