So, how often do you...

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So, how often do you...
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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 1:48pm
attend a true "adults only" event? I'm not talking a date night with your spouse, but, rather, a get together with friends where everyone finds a babysitter.

In talking to my girlfriend this morning, I have helped solidify my opinions on this. It isn't that I won't attend or host a child-free event, depending on the event. But if we are talking about hanging out with friends over dinner, I prefer to have my children with me. If having a New Years Eve party, I prefer to have my children with me. We just make them into family events. The example we came up with for an adult-only event was a murder mystery party that we have been thinking about having. If we are to go ahead and have that, it will most likely be child-free.

So, on average of "adults only" events for us, I would say MAYBE one a year. How about you guys?

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 1:58pm
I don't know if it counts as adults only in your sense of a party, but a group of friends (usually all women, but sometimes men) go out to the movies about twice a month. We usually make it a whole evening with a chat in a cafe before actually seeing the movie or sometimes dinner before in a nice restaurant. Babysitter is not usually a problem since dh stays home with the kids. It is more like a "girlfriends out" thing, and dh is seriously not into movies so he doesn't feel very deprived. Otherwise, I do attend a lot of adults only work related stuff (maybe 6 times a year?), which I thoroughly enjoy as I work with a great group of people, several of whom have become close friends. Friends with kids: we tend to plan things with the kids, but ours are much older so we generally get a very relaxing time without worrying about what the kids are up to.



Laura

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 2:04pm
I think I've attended one since Joel was born. So, that would be once a decade??? Yikes. I need to get out more.

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 2:12pm
rofl...you are as pathetic as me!

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 2:41pm
I am not really sure. DH and I don't have regular dates, but we do go out without the kids on our own or with another couple a few times a year. We also go to NFL games a couple times - probably 2 - per year. I was part of a Bunco league?/group? and that was adults only and more specifically adult women only. Part of the reason that I gave it up was because it became a hassle to find a sitter. I do go out with girlfriends occaisionally, but again the logistics to do it regularly quickly take the fun out of it.

As a child, I had two regular sitter on Saturday nights (I think they alternated it)- my mom worked and my grandparent's bowled. I remember it as being fun.

SUS

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 3:13pm
Dinner parties about every 6-8 weeks. This year our child-free occasions will include an overnight for a wedding, one overnight for our anniversary and one long night for my high school reunion.

Would you really let your kids stay up until midnight? Or do they sleep over at the house where you have the New Year's Eve party?

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 3:25pm
We never had a problem with our kids being out late...they would crash at the party or in the car on the way home and stay asleep as we packed them into bed. We don't do it often, but we've let the kids stay up until midnight on new year's eve a couple of times and this year went to a Eurovision contest party that lasted till midnight. Dd (the 4 year old) crashed out in my lap and went from there to the car to bed staying asleep the whole time. Ds (the 8 year old) was so thrilled with the whole contest that he is now inspired to form his own band, is writing lyrics and music and already has a cd planned out :-). Children were welcome to the party, btw, though there weren't many there. The ones who were there had a fabulous time, were focussed on watching the contest and did not disturb the adults.

Laura

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 4:01pm
Yes, I let my kids stay up until midnight on New Years Eve. And we either spend it here at our house or at a friends house. If they are at our home, they spend the night, and vice-versa. That way no one is out driving amongst the weirdos. :)

But, yes, we let our kids stay up that night.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 6:02pm
My dh and I do attend quite a few adults only events, but I think that has more to do with our age. Our circle of friends are in the 35 to 60 age group, most are parenting teens or older. Our kids have this thing about being seen with their parents ... a thing I went thru myself when I was a teen.

It so happens we just got back from an "adults only" event ... my bil's birthday. Many people did not show up. Well ... it is a Sunday afternoon, many people do family things on Sundays and that could be the reason, but I blame it on her lack of planning ... she called everyone yesterday for a party today. Sil started calling people and telling them to go ahead and bring their children ... by that time, we had already left without our girls. We stayed an hour.

Linda

 

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 6:40pm
About once a year here too. But if I had my druthers, it would be more often. But the hassle of finding a babysitter, paying $40 bucks for the babysitter, and going to an adults only event with people that I don't really like that much doesn't appeal to me. In Arizona, I didn't have that kind of social circle. In Oklahoma, I suspect that will change.

Hollie

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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 7:05pm
depends if you include business and charity events. With just close friends....maybe two times a year. Business and social organizations....maybe two or three a month.(sometimes I go and sometimes I opt to sah)

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