so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 2:41pm
Ty dear.
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 2:42pm

Your youngest isn't old enough already, is he?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 2:43pm

OK! Now we're talking! I'm full of tips!

How old is your little one?

Sue

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 4:48pm
Let me ask another way: have you passed the CADE certification to become a dietician?
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 5:30pm

No, not yet that's not require until you go to actually work.

 

Shari mother to

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:38pm

Wow! I got short changed. I didn't realize so many people got help that way. I didn't get any support from my parents after high school. In fact I helped support my mom as much as I could (she was left with pretty much nothing after the divorce. She stayed at home for 18 years, whatever happened to alimony eh?) and paid for university including a masters and my accounting designation to date.

I don't judge Shari for getting financial help though. It sounds like that was a temporary thing until her husband got a new job anyway. I admire that Shari is working on her masters while off. It is a smart way to keep the resume looking good so she can slide back into the workforce when she wants.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:41pm
I think she is refering to your joke about needing to get your priorities straight because now you are making more than your husband and he didn't like you being self sufficient. Remember? A joke I think.
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:47pm

I think people just want to know what harm is occuring. I think you said you did research on this? You should be able to give details. For example: (and I am not saying these are true)

Children who attend dc are 10 times more likely to end up in jail
Children who are not cared for by their mothers are more insecure by age 12
Children who attend daycare learn at a slower rate.

Statements should be backed up with data that exist somewhere. If this was done a couple hundred posts ago you would not have to keep repeating that you are repeating yourself. You never answered the question adequately.

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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 12:48am

I agree with you. I don't know who is disrupting the board and I wish that they would stop as it interupts the flow of the debate but, whatever was said, Kat, stick around. The board isn't the same without you.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 1:10am

Thank you for your post. I was begining to think that the rest of this thread had all been deleted. I've just gone through over 50 deleted posts. No good tips on potty training, just grateful for an undeleted post.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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