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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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I SAH for 12.5 years and I do not think that SAH is better. Although if asked the question then I probably would have thought so,
SAH was better for my particualr family situation but not better across the board.
My kids are all adults now and are not better, smarter, more moral than many who have always lived in dual working households.
Not shooting this directly at you - just something I've been curious about for a while - but your post reminded me.
Occasionally on this board I'll see "women should support each other."
Why?
I think that in general, it would be a good thing if people supported each other, but why, specifically, women?
Edited 8/24/2007 8:14 am ET by lauren1063
Right.
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"Some sahms are actually doing quite well."
Sure, and some of them do quite well based exclusively on their DHs' WOH. Big whoop.
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Better universally or better for her family?
Two very different things.
PumpkinAngel
<> it's not hard to see where they're coming from. she's had to borrow money at times, struggles to have enough money to put gas in the car, $5 left at the end of paying bills....
yeah, it's easy to see why others think that maybe, just maybe sah may not be "best" for her.
however, in the world of the sah/woh debate board, she IS free to make her own decisions.
Carole
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Have you ever supported a woman who chooses to work and makes those same great strides without family help?
PumpkinAngel
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