so sick of hearing....

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so sick of hearing....
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 7:55am
Many have. It's irrefutable logic, but not in the parallel universe so dearly known to all as the sah/woh board!
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:07am

I SAH for 12.5 years and I do not think that SAH is better. Although if asked the question then I probably would have thought so,

SAH was better for my particualr family situation but not better across the board.

My kids are all adults now and are not better, smarter, more moral than many who have always lived in dual working households.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:11am

Not shooting this directly at you - just something I've been curious about for a while - but your post reminded me.

Occasionally on this board I'll see "women should support each other."

Why?

I think that in general, it would be a good thing if people supported each other, but why, specifically, women?




Edited 8/24/2007 8:14 am ET by lauren1063

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Registered: 08-24-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:44am
I totally agree. I work as well, grant it from home now; but I was working in the office prior and while having children. I have a 4 year old and a 5 month old. I love them dearly; but like you, I do need the adult stimulation and friendships. I go in at least once a week for things and visit; but solely work from home. I guess that makes it easier because I do see my kids while I work; but even when I did work in the office, I never felt guilty or bad because I have always spent the time with them after I got off. My Mom stayed at home and my family hardly took any vacations or even spent any quality time together. So, it really doesn't matter if you work or not....it's really what kind of person/Mom you want to be. Do you want to play an important role in your children's life and spend time with them? Or do you want to just do your own thing? Not that you shouldn't have any 'ME' time; but you know what I mean....some people are 'ME' all of the time. I am tired of the media as well, just taking a few things away from some poll and going on that for their findings.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:50am

Right.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 9:53am

"Some sahms are actually doing quite well."


Sure, and some of them do quite well based exclusively on their DHs' WOH. Big whoop.


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Registered: 08-09-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:22am
No, it wasn't a gift. She was not 18, so her parents were still responsible for her.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:37am

Better universally or better for her family?


Two very different things.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:39am

<> it's not hard to see where they're coming from. she's had to borrow money at times, struggles to have enough money to put gas in the car, $5 left at the end of paying bills....

yeah, it's easy to see why others think that maybe, just maybe sah may not be "best" for her.

however, in the world of the sah/woh debate board, she IS free to make her own decisions.

Carole

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:39am

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Have you ever supported a woman who chooses to work and makes those same great strides without family help?

PumpkinAngel

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